To want to tell everyone to get lost and leave me alone?

[Switchoff]

I swear down its hard work been me .

extended family are all PITA I am a pushover they are all aggresive pushy control freaky twats people.

I am fed up of trying to please everyone all the time
My Mum who never vists but would like me to walk the dc up in the rain to see her (she has a car I dont)

My sister no1 who thinks she has it so hard and thinks nothing of pulling me down in her oh so nice passive aggresive way .

My sister no2 who is just a bitch of the highest order most of the time and demands I be on her back & call all the time.

My brother .

My Dad who works away and is an alcoholic and probably a cokehead too who thinks its ok to ring us at 3 am and cry down the phone to me .

Can they all please FUCK OFF.

Wow - that sounds hard. Do you have to be at their whim? What would they do if you, say, went away for Christmas for a break?

What are your DP's family like?

time to move.

far away.

only think that works with crap family.

We don't see dp's family anymore [long story].

I am not really at their whim TBH I am just having a whinge at what hard work they are.

I am just finding it hard ATM and I am unreasonably jealous of a PG friends family who help her out no end and listen to her ,My mum has never really babysat for me or offered to take DC out.

The trouble is I can't say no I have always been the same I want to please people ,and if I do say no I sit feeling guilty for ages and raking over it all .

My sisters are especialy annoyng me ,one went to the GP yesterday for some results and I forgot to ring ,now she is ignoring my calls and email this morning because she is angry I didn't ask last night .

I would love to move ,I dream of living far away .

I am actually crying how sad is that ?

The only people who ever just wanted me for me were my Godmothers and they have gone to live in NZ .

Just because they are your family doesn't mean that they are people you either like or love. You are under no obligation to spend time or energy on them if they are like this.

I once didn't speak to my Dad for 6 months because he was rude and unpleasant about my mother and my husband. It was liberating...my heart didn't sink each time the phone rang, and I didn't go around with a faint feeling of dread the whole time. It is sad to say that when he died in 2001, it was as if I could start to be me and I was 35 at that point; lived the other end of the country from him had been married since I was 20, and had a child and was a teacher.

There are some people you are better without, no matter how you think you should feel about them; family ties or not. Sad, but true.

Do you want at the end of your life to think what a martyr I was to my family, and how unhappy they made me; or I cut out the people who made me unhappy, sapped my energy and dragged me down? I know which I chose, and have felt better for it.

Good luck!!