Ok here's the deal - sil and bil have alot higher paid jobs then us and are very careful with their money - fair enough right!
If we owed them 50p they'd ask for it back. if we used one of their nappies they'd ask for one of ours back. I get the feeling they always feel like they are being 'done' by us.
For instance, once (years ago but still going on about)my lovely dh borrowed sil's portable cd player(which was offered by her), when he returned it she said it wasn't hers. Hers was a sony and not a goodmans that dh was returning - she was trying to emply that dh had kept her more expensive cd player and got her a cheep one!!!!
I couldn't believe it and dh was so angry and humiliated that she would think he'd do something like that.
Anyway a few months ago we went for a meal together with all the kids. Sil offered that MY dh would pay for the meal on his card and they'd pay us back.
A few weeks past and it was never mentioned (i feel really embarassed asking people for money) and if it was anyone else we probably would have let it go. But if know if it was the other way around they'd be wanting it straight it away and probably ask for interest!!!
I was adament not to let this go so we plucked up the courage and asked last week. Oh and by the way we have (foolishly i'll admit) let other things pass by unmentioned.
Anyway They said they'd paid for something else for us since then - which they could not remember!!! Now I know for sure that we have not been anywhere with them apart from each others houses since the meal so could not have.
We really are normally quite generous people and would happily pay for a meal for a friend or family but they are just so damn annoying (I really could go on and on and on). I really feel about this. It makes me not want to see/do/ go to anything with them anymore. But they are dh's family and the only family that live anywhere near us. Should I just bite my tongue AGAIN?
But apart from that they are lovely