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To not go to my dd1's first carol service with the brownies?

19 replies

LoveMyGirls · 10/12/2008 12:27

I've been ill since the early hours of yesterday, today I am at least up and dressed but still burning up and dd2 is also ill now so I've had to take time off work, dp is at work but is also ill with the same thing although was ill before me so is hopefully on his way to being better.

If we do go I need to find a babysitter who I trust to care for dd2 when she is ill although we will be minutes away as the church is round the corner I'm worried as when dd1 was dd2's age she had a febrile convulsion so I'm very wary of dd's having temps and being left, my mum who is a nurse and I would trust is at work the other people I trust is pil BUT dd's were there most of sunday with dp and they are having them overnight on saturday so I think asking them to have her tonight if only for a couple of hours is a bit much when they both work FT too.

But dd1 will be disapointed if we don't go and we'll have to take and pick her up anyway but she is 9 and old enough to understand we aren't very well.

What should we do?

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KbearingGiftsWeTraverseAfar · 10/12/2008 12:33

can you ring another mum and get her to take her. DD is old enough to understand why you can't go but might be disappointed if she can't.

We have brownie carol concert tonight too!

KbearingGiftsWeTraverseAfar · 10/12/2008 12:34

or just drop her with Brown Owl and go back for her later?

KbearingGiftsWeTraverseAfar · 10/12/2008 12:35

and I understand your concerns about the febrile convulsions - My DS had a couple. Hope everyone is better soon.

LoveMyGirls · 10/12/2008 12:44

We can just drop her off and pick her up just feel guilty if we don't go but it really is the last place I wanna be right now infact anywhere other than sitting or lying down as quietly as I can is good as I need to work tomorrow i really can't afford another day off unless dd2 is worse than today tbh. (actually I couldn't afford any days off but sometimes you have no choice)

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LoveMyGirls · 10/12/2008 13:01

Dp could take her and drop her off but not stay for the sevice he was only going to come if I went, really can't see him going for an hour and a half when he feels rough and has been to work all day, same for me apart from I haven't worked today but I am ill and am looking after poorly dd2 all day and I need to rest so that I can work tomorrow.

Convulsions - I had one at 18mths dd2 had 1 when she was 2 and a half dd2 is now just over 3 but I still worry it could happen to her too.

I can't believe the ambulance took so long to come for your ds!

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KbearingGiftsWeTraverseAfar · 10/12/2008 14:37

waited 45 mins for ambulance when DS had his fit too - that was early hours of the morning - ambulance had to come from Kent and I'm in SE London!

so, watcha gonna do then? She won't mind if you're not there. Can Nan and Grandad go instead?

LoveMyGirls · 10/12/2008 14:48

I've text my dad to see if he will go and see it, church is much more his thing anyway.

I've tried to go back to bed this afternoon so I could get an hours sleep to maybe feel ok enough to go but dd2 wouldn't let me, kept chattering and moving even though she is ill too.

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LoveMyGirls · 10/12/2008 15:41

I've told dd1 I feel too ill to go, she's now upset and says if I'm not going she's not either

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OhYouMerryMerryKitten · 10/12/2008 15:49

it is rotten for her but tbh it would be even more rotten for all those who would catch it if you went if they are battling it over Christmas.

dd is missing hers cos of a tummy bug.

But actually, its such a horrid bug - you are doing the right thing in not going for yourself - its taken some of my friends ages to get over it and you don't want to prolong it or make it worse.

Hope you all feel better soon.

LoveMyGirls · 10/12/2008 15:59

Dp has said he will go as he feels a bit better.

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Gorionine · 10/12/2008 16:03

Tell her you are very desapointed not to be able to go and that you rally do not want her to miss out as well. Tell her to enjoy it and tell you every little detail of it so you will feel like you were actally there with her.

KbearingGiftsWeTraverseAfar · 10/12/2008 18:30

I wish I could get out of DD's carol service tonight now... I want to stay in the warm and go to bed at 8.30, like last night!

LoveMyGirls · 10/12/2008 18:32

Sounds like a good plan Kbear. Dp has gone (think he was wishing he didn't have to and I do feel for him, sitting in a cold church where you don't know anyone and don't even know the words won't be much fun) He has only ever been for christenings etc

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KbearingGiftsWeTraverseAfar · 10/12/2008 18:34

At least our church is warm, friendly and I know the words ha ha!! And there are mince pies and cups of tea after. I will suffer it!

LoveMyGirls · 10/12/2008 18:40

Dp doesn't drink tea or like mince pies ..... ohhh he's going to come home miserable but dd will hopefully be smiling which should help!

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KbearingGiftsWeTraverseAfar · 10/12/2008 21:23

I'm back, was lovely, brass band, rousing carols, lots of little sketches by the brownies with tinsel halos and cubs with tea towel head gear!

Merry Christmas!

How did DP get on LMG?

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