aibu to complain about this child being in creche????

[littleducks]

dd attends the creche at the local leisure centre, for an hour a week so i can attend an exercise class, she (and I) have missed several weeks recently due to a d and v bug followed by chicken pox

DS has cp just finished now but still clingy so i took dd to creche today but didnt go to class but stayed with ds, as dd has been stuck at home with sick brother too

I heard another mum very loudly on her phone explain that she had just dropped her son at creche early as he had just come out of drs for having a chest infection which he had been prescribed abs for but may be ill for anotherf week or two and so needed to have a rest, after all the sickness i literally went straight to creche and picked up dd and complained about the other child being there ill.

I feel that i fully complied with sickness policy and am pissed off that this m,um didnt, but guilty to complain as i was i suppose eavesdropping, though other mum was very loud?

The creche stafdf knew nothing about

I would have done the same. I don't know why she would have dropped a child at creche who has got a chest infection for which they need antibiotics. I think you did the right thing to let staff know. Don't feel guilty.

Difficult one. I can see why you're p-o'd, I think I would be too.

But this is a creche at a leisure centre for one hour or so. Not sure your dd wouldn't get the same exposure to germs just being in a shopping centre for that amount of time, tbh.

OTOH, I don't know if creches're bound by the same rules as nurseries - nurseries won't allow a child to be on their premises for the first 3 days of antibiotics in case they have a reaction (so I was told by a nursery nurse) rather than because they're necessarily infectious. So this mum shouldn't have been dropping her child off there (and quite frankly if my child was that poorly and likely to be poorly for a while the last place I'd want to put her would be a gym creche )

So I don't know if YABU or not...

yanbu

poor thing, he shouldn't be left if he is ill

Why would you be listening in to someone elses phonecall?

Of course if the child is ill yanbu but you might have heard her wrong

Well it depends on what type of chest infection the child has. Not all are contagious (some are secondary to colds etc)

CoV! I've been trying to get hold of you for yonks! Are you still after a plastic lace tablecloth?

I don't think chest infections are infectious per se, are they (am happy to be corrected on this though). I thought they usually developed following a virus such as a cold or flu. I wouldn't have thought that your daughter would have been at risk from him. She might however have picked up another cold etc from the creche from a kid who did not even seem ill, but I assume you made that judgment call about whether she was ready for another bout of sickness before you dropped her off there.

The issue as to whether that woman's rather unwell little boy ought to have been anywhere but tucked up in the warm at home is an entirely different matter.

Yes and no. As a child who has just been dxed with a chest infection is likely to be feeling pretty rotten, so shouldn't be at a gym creche. But I wouldn't be concerned about a child with a cough - as it's going to be a virus rather than the chest infection that's infectious.

You sure she wasnt saying something similar to your situation? ie.. one kid was sick and she took other one to creche for a break?

I don't think yabu. If my child was on abs then I wouldn't put him in a creche.

Re: the phonecall, if you couldn't help hearing it that's not unreasonable either.

The phone converstaion could have gone like this:

Woman: 'just dropped ds2 of at creche'
Caller: 'how is ds1, is he at home'?
Woman: 'he has just come out of drs for having a chest infection which he had been prescribed abs for but may be ill for anotherf week or two and so needed to have a rest'

Whether YABU or not, I dont think you should be listening to other peoples conversations on the phone

what did the creche say?

If the child is not contageous and wants to go to the creche than I don't see why anyone else should get involved.

A couple of weeks ago my DD (age 5) had aurinary tract infection. She was on ABs. When we gave her nurofen her fever came down and she was running round like any other day -- until nurofen wore off. We did actually take her to the creche when we went shopping. A UTI is not contageous and she wanted to go, so what good would it have done her or anyone else to make her stay couped up in the house where she was clearly bired and frustrated?

If the boy was not contageous, then I think there is nothing wrong with him going to the creche? Now, if the boy had the measels then I could understand your concern. But, you don't even know what the boy had/has. It was probably a result of a cold. Woudl you keep you kids home because they had a cold? I wouldn't. Just as I wouldn't call in sick myself if I had a cold.

but this child doesn't have a cold, they have a chest infection that needs antibiotics. While a child may seem ok (while the nurofen is working) if on ABs then my own view would be that they would benefit from being at home - but obviously people have different styles of parenting.

How do you know she was talking about the child that was with her? Could she be talking about her other child, which was sick at home with daddy, or nanny, while she took her other child to the creche?

I agree that this child should have been tucked up warm at home, not left in a creche - even though their presence there shouldn't have been a huge risk to the other children there, it's hardly going to speed his recovery!

With regard to the 'eavesdropping phone calls' issue - sometimes you can't help overhearing what someone else is saying on their mobile - ie, the eavesdropping isn't deliberate. To be honest, I don't have an expectation of privacy if I am using my mobile phone in public - and if I want to keep my conversation private, then it's up to me to find somewhere where I won't be overheard, not up to the rest of the world to dash out of earshot.

the mum probably just couldn't be bothered with caring for her sick kid and needed a bit of a break. must admit though, i personally wouldn't expose other kids to that if my DS was ill. bit selfish.

I would have (and have) done the exact same thing as you, report it.

Yanbu.

well you'll have loved me then - last week I took DS3 to toddlers, the day after he started his antibiotics for a chest infection - the most contagious thing about him was a snotty nose - and I'm not keeping my DS's away from other children when they have snotty noses or they'll never go out

My DS's have a history of secondary chest infections (which are totally non-contagious to anyone else) and if I deem them well enough to go out they do.

she said, we have just been to drs, he has chest infection.....i will pick up prescription later i just dropped him at creche early so we can leave early as not well and needs a rest (so was def that child)

staff knew nothing about it and if he was unwell but not infectious wouldnt you have told carers? but regardless we sign an agreement basically no sick children if contagious illness develops inform creche (i phoned creche when dd had cp) so she was breaking their rules which isnt really my business but i was cross as i dont need dd to pick up another bug if it can be avoided, if not thats life

i was sitting in cafe with ds, the mum sat at next table and had loud phone conversation, i didnt deliberately listen in but did feel uncomfortable

well if she has children like mine (where I can see that they have a chest infection even before the symptoms even appear - well almost) perhaps he wasn't phsyicall that unwell yet?

Mind you I am quite well practised at it - DS1 used to get a secondary chest infection every time he got a cold as a baby .