to keep dd1 out of school even though there is nothing wrong with her?

[SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore]

I know i am and I am going to taker her to school even though id much rather be in bed. god knows when we will get to school though.

She wont get ready again and I just cannot be bothered with the fights again this morning. The dog was very ill last night and I have been up the most of the night with her. We thought she was going to die earlier.

the dog needs peace and quiet and dd1 is just not listening to anything I say and is constantly dancing about and letting balloons fly about even though it is scaring the dog. I do not have the energy to deal with her this morning.

So AIBU to seriously consider just sending her back to bed instead of school?

I know you will all say but be gentle i have barely slept for three days now im tired and icky.

I have thought about this again, and I would also let her know that it is illegal for 5-y-os not to be at school unless they are ill.

If it's really true that you have no control over her, shesells, I would say it is time that someone (i.e. you) asserted some control. If you don't, what will things be like when she's 15?

I'd also say that bobbles and gloves are not worth any kind of fight. If she doesn't want bobbles or ticket-y gloves, so what? She gets messy hair and cold hands. This is not a big deal. Having no control over her generally is a big deal. I'd get off the computer and focus on that, not on bobbles.

I have taken mine to school half dressed when there have been tights/skirt/trouser battles.
It's truly amazing how fast they get dressed in the car outside the school gates.

I once put my 4yo in the bath in her clothes because she wouldn't get undressed. That certainly made a difference to future compliance.

Ahh - maybe this is her way of expressing sadness about the dog

She must be feeling it too.

It is also her birthday too - from another thread

Think I can understand why she is behaving like that

She is alos sad about the dog
Love, hugs and understanding is the order of the day
I still think you should take her to school - but better to be a bit late and DD reassured in her sadness.
Hope it goes OK
So sorry to hear about your dog

I have a friend who had no control over her kids, she now has a 16 year old who has been sexually active since 13!! Had caught 3 STDs, smokes, dropped out of school, dropped out of collage. A 13 year old who smokes, is expelled from school for fighting, and a 9 year old who refuses to go to school (guess what she will turn out like?!) Seriously you need to get a grip on this before she turns into a teenager.

It's her Birthday and the dogs ill, heck we should all have a day off in sympathy.

Shesells sorry you're having a bad time - I hope that, by now, you've got dd sorted out and into school.

I would think that she will be tired from being up so late last night - which never helps - and also worried about the dog. But, I hope you will now have a quiet day when you and the dog can have a rest peacefully.

I have a very strong-willed 3.5yo - he has also been put in the bath partially dressed as he hasn't taken his clothes off after repeated requests. He also has been told on occasions that, unless he gets dressed immediately he will be going to school in his pyjammas/pants/nothing depending upon his state of dress at the time. He knows I will follow-through - when he was 2+ he started taking his shoes off in the car which, on short journeys home from nursery pick-up when he really needed to walk into house due to bags etc needing carrying, was really annoying. One time, after being asked not to take them off, and told that he'd have to walk into the house without them, he still did, so when we got home I calmly took off his socks (so that they didn't get wet !) and told him to walk from the car to the house without his shoes. He was surprised and upset (despite the fact that he quite often manages to get out onto the drive in bare feet anyway and doesn't complain normally ).

Pick you battles. Use careful 'threats' that you are happy to carry through - such as if you don't put your coat on we will go out without it and you will be cold... I normally put the coat/whatever somewhere it can still be accessed if required at a later stage, but don't insist. Let her assert her independance, but tell her what the consequences will be, so that when they happen she can't blame you!

Good luck

is it reallt her birthday?
well I agree with the 'just dress her and take her'

oh and you cant have arguments with chilren about 'tickets in gloves' if you dont answer or say anything in return to their whingin about it

BUT
she will be bothered by the dog being so ill, she will be tiresd from the 'dog induced' late night

so erm, not sure what I would do tbh

probably dress her, take her and get the rest that you and the dog need
ood luck

Yes it was her birthday yesterday. She was meant to be coming home after her tea party to play on her game but that was vetoed because of the dog being ill. the dog actually seems a lot better now. She has these episodes from time to time though never one anywhere near as bad as this. I really did think we were going to lose her. Normally she will have one fit that lasts a few minutes and then takes about ten minutes to come around fully, last night her fits were lasting over half an hour each and she kept stopping breathing.

dd1 could see how upset I was and that was worrying her. She knew how serious it was because she said to me on the way to school that she thought if she went to sleep I wouldnt wake her to say bye bye to the doggy if she had to go to doggy heaven.

I have called into the vets on the way home from the school who said that this might be a one off triggered by the change in her tablets and to keep a close eye on her the next few days and bring her in if the fitting doesn't stop or it happens that badly again. They also want to weigh her sometime in the next few days to ensure she is still getting the correct dosage.

dd1 went to school with her gloves on after I dragged her out of the house with no coat and shoes on and locked the door so she couldn't run back in. She decided she would walk to school barefoot. She changed her mind by the time we had reached the end of our street and put on her coat/gloves/shoes etc.

Really feel for you and I think you made the right decision by taking her to school.

Glad she went. I hope you and the dog feel better.

I don't fight over anything in the morning. I just order. I'm quite nice the rest of the time!

Good on you for getting her to school. Sounds like a determined little girl. I remember my mum shoving me out of the house without shoes on and posting my shoes through the letterbox on one occasion

Hope you dog is over the worse and you both can have a restful day.

well done for getting her there x

how does she manage at school?