to be disapointed with my mums attitude ?

[cheeryface]

i have been in an unhappy relationship for a long time and i am also suffering anxiety and chronic sinusitis at the moment. on top of that my son has been ill 6 times in the last 3 months.

i dont see my mum that much even though she lives 15 mins away because shes always busy and also i love her but god she winds me up.

anyway today, she phones and bearing in mind i feel like i have been in hell for the past month with no one to talk to, i have a bit of a moan. as soon as i try to tell her about my troubles with dh , she says she doesnt want me to tell her, that she cant listen to any more doom and gloom because that will depress HER.

this is the case every time .

i feel like, if i cant talk to my own mother who the hell can i talk to ?

I'm on citalopram and they've been a godsend. I'm coming off them now very slowly but they've helped me through a very stressful time.
Once you get them into your system you'll be able to see more clearly.
I'm off now but will catch up tomorrow. Night and take care x

I'm sure you can have antibiotics and antidepressants at the same time. Can't you?

Please check.

I took citalopram for about eight months two years ago and they really helped.

Lots of other good things help too. Some self-help measures for depression are terrifically helpful.

ye, i think u can, its just me

Don't wait.

Yes cheeryface you can have them together. I was recently in hospital with kidney stone and infection and the dr gave me anti bs no problem. He asked what meds I was already on.

How are you feeling to day?

hi ya, thanx for asking. still feelin grotty really. my throat is all tickly now aswell, which is what ds said when he was starting with the latest virus last week.
hoping it isnt gonna get me.
my mum has text and asked how ds is. no mention of me lol

Cheery and smallships your mums sound like sodding cows really unsympathetic women!! That's horrible about "don't tell me, you're ruining my day!!

Oh and cheery, take your citalopram!! It takes a while to kick in so the sooner the better. Anxiety is so miserable to live with, I had it horribly after DS's birth ('twas a bit traumatic to say the least), it can really mess with your head and leave you unable to cope. You don't need that on top of your bag of a mum.

the thing is some people just cant handle other people's sadness very well - even mums. its a weird time of year for everyone - its dark, everyone fighting off colds etc and maybe she just cant handle it. However much your family and friends love you they are not counsellors.

i reckon you need to stop hoping your mum will somehow be the one to make you feel better and start treating yourself really well - get yourself better from the sinusitis which will be making you feel dreadful - invite those mates round for a large cake, and treat yourself to some fun. Thats what we all need at this time of year. Put on a great video tonight, eat some great food, and make time to get out to see your mates who will probably be really pleased to see you

How are you doing cheeryface?

Hi Cheeryface

I'm sorry you have had such a horrible time but it can be very difficult for the people who are always "off-loaded onto"...

I have a friend and sometimes I'd love to tell her to stop regailing me with her stories of unmittigating misery...and also that "a bit of a sniffle" doesn't actually count as "being weighed down with a sick child".

Likewise my Mum has a sister who continually offloads her tales of misery onto her - its always who has just died, or how horrible worried she is about xyz person who is "so ill"..

It is really bad for you at the moment and I'm sorry you are having such a hard time - I suspect your Mum is actually worried about you, but because she is so worried about you she can't listen any more at the moment to the things that are wrong because she is already taking them on board.

Friends, Mumsnet, telephone helplines (you'll find there is a helpline for most things) are places to offload at the moment for a wee while.