To have told my son he couldn't go home with another boy because his mother has a disability?

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I didn't tell my son that was why he couldn't go, but that is the reason I've said no.

My son came home from school today and said that he has been invited over to his friend's house to play. This boy and my son have been friends since they started school two years ago. He seems a nice enough lad and they get on well. However his mother is blind.

The fact she is blind doesn't bother me, she seems nice enough, but I'll be honest, allowing her to pick my child up from school and walk him home to her house bothers me.

There are just little things such as crossing roads that I am uneasy about, I know that she does it with her own child every day but I am uneasy about letting her do it with mine.

So I have told my son that we are very busy until Christmas and so we'll have to see in the new year, but I am secretly hoping that the invite will be forgotten.

lol twig.

But people with this attitude do exist.

My mother has this attitude in fact..

A couple of years ago I took a friend of ds' to my house for lunch - they were 4 at the time. I picked them both up from preschool, took them to the park and then back to my house for lunch. her mum had no issue with letting me pick her dd up etc.

Later that night my mum rang me and was just generally asking what I'd been doing so I said I'd had this child home to play with ds and she said, "wow, I'm surprised people are prepared to trust you with their children."

From your own mother ?

can I just stand up and applaude that this is the first thread where someone has wistfully observed that the trolls aren't as good as they used to be

so happy!

FWIW OP. Twig is right.

Oh. I have to say, pleased you did not tell your dc this was the reason and to be honest, I don't think you should have ever told/tell anyone that this is the reason.

Nah, I wouldn'r trust WannaBe with my dc's!
She'd spend the whole time on MN!

yes from my own mother. Who also told me that I should be understanding of the fact that other people might never want me to look after their children - and she refused to allow me to take my sister's ds to the park.

So while on the whole I have never had issue with other people not wanting me to look after their children (in fact I am the only person one of my friends trusts to take her dd to/from school), I help out in class/at school discos etc, I am also well aware that some people may feel uncomfortable with the idea.

Would hope they would talk to me about concerns though, but if not would be their loss imho.

Oh and please could mnhq make the judge flounce threads pay per view - I'd pay good money to see those.

YABVU. If she does it with her own child so she is perfectly capable of loking after your son,

I have asked my blind friend to look after my Ds while they were all around my house as I need to get to the shops, as we going to have dinner together. My ds is 4 yrs old. I know he is safe with her and trust them all.
We will decide openly as friends what we are comfortable with. We have been friend for 10 years. I hate it when people speak to me instead of her to ask her want she needs or wants. She is blind not deaf. She is a highly, educated phyciatrist and very lovely person. OP is missing out on a friend. Prejudice comes out in lots of forms.

Please have a quick look at this old thread and tell me that deletions policy has not changed at hq.

Sorry, ignore ignore, I posted in the wrong place!

YABU What an awful example you are to your child.

It is interesting though bibbity...

bibbity

I think you have a point, though...

Point proven all the same

I was thinking that this might be a reverse AIBU rather than a troll. Either way it is pretty poor.

SORRY I ACCIDENTALLY BUMPED THIS IT IS AN OLD THREAD!!!

If MNHQ nips through now and deletes all those 2008-vintage insults we've had it

Arf.

I can speak from another point of view. When my son was small (40 yars ago) he had twin friends at primary school. I knew that one was diabetic and smaller than his brother but I could not invite one boy to tea and not the other. I invited both and, not really knowing what a diabetic could eat in those days, I asked his mother. They all finsihed up with scrambled egg on toast and had a pleasurable time. I felt that I should invite both boys or neither so I went for it. Diabetes is more well known now than it was then so, for me, it was a big venture. The twins mother agreed to let her diabetic boy come to me so why can't you trust the blind mother (ok a bit different) to have your son?

For Heaven's sake, get a grip and go for it. As other posters have said, if she can manage with her own child and yours can be trusted to behave there will be no problem.

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