SIL's behaviour is so exasperating all the time. I know everyone has different parenting styles and differernt priorities in life. But DH and I are fed up with her expecting PIL (her and mine) to bail her and her DH out be it looking after her DC's or helping financially.
And what really annoys me is that for the first 4-5 years of her time in the family she spent about 2 hours a week on the phone to me, every week, moaning about how selfish, clueless and useless the PIL were.
And a while ago she was moaning that they all went out for the day and when her DS wanted some sweets and she had no cash PIL did'nt out his hand in his pocket, because 'he is tight'. But in the next breath she said FIL bought her DD a pair of shoes on same day!
No one can do any right by her, including her own DH who she got to change jobs for a stressful position in the city so he earned more so she could give up work to be with the DC's. Only for her to want to move nearer her own parents and him now have a 2 hour commute everyday, which she complains bitterly about, especially when he is delayed in traffic etc.
Now she has gone back to work she keeps increasing her hours to earn more as they are mortgaged to thier ears (because they bought late into thier relationship - again because she like the disposable income that she had while renting) and she just expects PIL to look after her DC's, she doesnt even ask them until her new hours have been agreed. They are retired FGS, they should be there for nice things not free childcare and financial support.
DH and I cope with everything on our own because we live away from any family, it's hard but it can be done, with occasional support from our close friends when things get desperate, medical emergencies etc. Her and her DH are adults too and it is about time they learned to stand on there own feet.
DH and I suspect FIL is getting wise to SIL and trying to put up barriers, but MIL just goes along with SIL, which now affects my relationship with her, as I dont think she should.
Before B&SIl were married MIL was funny towards her, but SIL told me she said to her that if they ever had kids and MIL wanted to see them she had better change her attitude, which I am sure is the reason why MIL just puts up with everything.
The real shame is that our DC's really get on well and play so nicely together, but we dont want to be around her.
In fact last time we were with them, DH told DD not to do something and SIL questioned his parenting right in front of DD .
So it has now got so bad that as we have caller ID, when see B&SIL's no. we ignore the call!