To have joked about DHs friend being a 'groomzilla'!?

[NicEm]

We have three kids - including one baby and DH's friend has asked him to be an usher next summer at his wedding. The friend rang up the other night to ask if DH was free on 2 particular Saturdays in january to go and get measured for suits.

I work on some Saturdays and it happened that I am working on these two days in question. The groom wanted to know straight away so DH just said pick one and he would work around it.

I joked that it was a bit 'groomzilla' to be planning suit measurements dates 2 months in advance (8 months before the wedding) and that we (or DH) would have to get childcare for 3 kids to go on this jolly. - I just thought - in a jokey way - since finding the childcare would not be my problem (well technically) that either DH could go any time to get measured or that another weekend could be arranged between now and the end of august if they needed to make an event of it....? ( we haven't even started on the stag event of the year that we can't afford...)

Apparently I am being mega unreasonable according to DH...what do you think?

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The kids are probably not invited to the wedding either but that's another thread!!!!!!!

All I do know is that I predict some bumpy times ahead.......

well, these things do need to be planned in advance don't they? I guess he just wants to know it's all sorted.
and perhaps the groom is super busy at weekends too and that's the only time he can go??

I'm more annoyed that I couldn't make a joke about it without DH getting offended on his behalf... It's not as if I would say it to the groom or anything. It's alright for him to make harmless jokes about other people but it obviously doesn't work the other way around! ..... Unless he knows I'm right of course

i don;t think it is unreasonable, when most families are busy etc, to give 2 months notice of suit fittings to make sure everyone can attend

i think making rude comments about a husabnd or wife's friend is a bit unreasonable, and then being cross because your H is offended on his behalf is unreasonable

surely planning ahead means that the issue of you working cna be got around?

I would be irritated tbh as it's a bit passive aggressive to make "little jokes" about someone being annoying. I'd think "if you've got something to say, out with it"

Lulu - I see what you are saying but what's the big deal about a suit fitting? he can go anytime? 2 possible days out of months and months of possibles I also thought a bit harsh!

Also, I'm sure we can get round it with a bit of begging but using precious babysitting 'credits' for this just sticks in my throat a bit when we are both so busy trying to keep up with life in general.

and I wasn't beign really rude at first - just a kind of - ' isn't it the bride's job to be a little bridezilla - not groomzilla!' He said that when it's the blokes it's just being organised but when it's the brides, it's being obsessive!!!!

YANBU he is a groomzilla

in fact I think he is gay

what straight man cares about bespoke suits in advance?

suggest this to your DH as a reasonable alternative

either way your year sounds like it's going to be GRIM

I bet it's the bride driving the dates thing. She'll be going for a dress fitting on the same day and wants her dh-to-be to be doing weddingy things too.

Or maybe Ralph Lauren's making the suits and those are the only days he can fit them in!

They're only hiring suits from somewhere local...