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Is something wrong with me?

32 replies

nappymumy · 01/12/2008 22:19

All my mates having babys this days but some of them drives me mad.One had her baby 8 weeks ago.She is premature so still in hospital,mum complaints that she is exhausted.She goes to hospital around midday,stays untill 5 pm,doesn't wake up at night to express milk(to tired)...The other mum send her little one to nursery when he was 5 months,because she was sorry that she couldn't play with him(to busy chatting on line)and was very upset that she can't claim money back for nursery while on maternity leave...and she is very tired also,can't cook or clean the house.Both are going back to work as soon they can having really inambition jobs...I've decided to put my career on hold to raise my little one...Is it abnormal this days.Is something wrong with me or the world go mad???

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dizzydixies · 01/12/2008 22:20

each to their own, wouldn't be my choice but then I know others who have

Colditz · 01/12/2008 22:20

Oh sod off. They are probably discussing how boring and judgemental you have become as we speak. The world hasn't gone MAD but this isn't 1953 any more.

onthewarpath · 01/12/2008 22:21

I do not really understand you question, sorry!

Colditz · 01/12/2008 22:22

And to be quite frank if I had been able to put my baby in nursery at 5 months old I would have done. It's a fucking boring age and housework is a fucking boring occupation.

Maybe they are more intelligent than you and need more stimulus things to think about?

2AdventSevenfoldShoes · 01/12/2008 22:22

the one with a baby in hospital is probally depressed. it is an awful time, yes you get sleep. but no baby to hold. be nice to her.

sallystrawberry · 01/12/2008 22:22

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ThePeachyPlumFairy · 01/12/2008 22:22

nothings rong with you but each to their own- sounds like your friends might have a different side to put! or at the least pnd (very likely with scbu baby, how awful to judge!)

there but for the grace of God / let him without sin cast the first stone etc etc

what is the point of this thread btw?

2AdventSevenfoldShoes · 01/12/2008 22:23

(this being nice on AIBU is getting hard work}

ThePeachyPlumFairy · 01/12/2008 22:24

base the amount of niceness on that presented in op I think

orangehead · 01/12/2008 22:25

Regarding the one with baby in hospital, when you are emotionally worried about something it can be more draining than something physical. No wondered she is exhausted, sounds like you need to support her a bit more

wonderstuff · 01/12/2008 22:25

You don't sound very nice. Could that be what's wrong?

solidgoldbrass · 01/12/2008 22:25

What's it to you? Do what suits you and let them do the same.

NCRedBreastedBirdy · 01/12/2008 22:25

Sometimes there is little point though 2Shoes.

skidoodle · 01/12/2008 22:25

LOL

Yes I'm sure it was a hard decision to give up your "career"

I think there is something wrong with you. Do you have large teeth in the manner of tusks and a big shock of brightly-coloured thread.

I just hope the bridge you worked under is still free when your kids go to school and you're ready to resume your duties

NCRedBreastedBirdy · 01/12/2008 22:27

Actually, this must be a wind up - you say you have a child and yet you have no sympathy at all for a mother who is home alone will her prem baby is in hospital.

Makes no sense to me, trot on.

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nappymumy · 01/12/2008 22:28

I knew I mad!But I can't really put my little one to the nursery as he doesn't want to be separate from mummy.I think that is cruel to put him to so much stress and leave him with strangers.I am not judging them am just asking is it normal this days to be selfish and think about yourself only?

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NCRedBreastedBirdy · 01/12/2008 22:28

See - I never post fast enough!

2AdventSevenfoldShoes · 01/12/2008 22:29

how bizarre

Jux · 01/12/2008 22:31

Waste of time. Night night.

wonderstuff · 01/12/2008 22:31

You're not judging, but asking if its normal to be selfish?? Gosh you sound like a great friend and so intelligent too.

skidoodle · 01/12/2008 22:31

Look nappymumy, now that there is the internet we are too busy arguing about parenting methods to actually spend time with our children.

You could say it's selfish to put our idleness above our children's welfare but here on MN we think that children do better if you let them rear themselves. It's called Ultimate Baby-led Parenting. UBP - remember those letters. It's catching on.

If the little sods know so much, who are we to tell them different, eh?

wonderstuff · 01/12/2008 22:33

lol skidoodle

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nappymumy · 01/12/2008 22:37

shock I mad!!!I thought that is nice and bebeficial for babys to be with them untl they can walk,speak etc...well I get this wrong hmm

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2AdventSevenfoldShoes · 01/12/2008 22:40

oh grow up
one of the babys is in hospital and you judge the mother.
go play with your toys.

ThePeachyPlumFairy · 01/12/2008 22:41

your posts are very hard to translate op.

you're not necessarily mad just not.... a very good friend.

I hope the mum of the prem baby is receiving support from elsewhere. Poor soul.