to be mad at the boy who told my 5 year old son some Christmas truths?

[tigerlily1980]

I apologise now, if there are many posts like this but I am feeling really upset!

This morning, my 5 year old boy was opening his advent calender, when he turned round to me and said "Mummy, you and Daddy have lied to me...FC is a fake!"

So I asked him why he thought that, and he said that our 10 year old neighbour (who he idolises) told him. My daughter (ds's twin) immediately piped up that the older boy had lied and wouldn't get any presents. My son was adamant that the older boy must be telling the truth, so I had to come up with a quick thinking answer (which will no doubt be thrown back in my face in a few years!!), and said that if you say you don't believe in Santa he might hear you and you will only get presents from your family and not the Santa ones (which in our household are usually the ones in your stocking and the big things you really want).

Think this got through because my son then got worried that his friend would not get many presents, and said "Next time he says that I better not say anything."

Then I felt guilty for portraying the older boy as a liar. However, I believed in Santa until I was about 10 and was hoping that the magic would last for at least another couple of years with my own kids. I can't believe one of my little 5 year olds is questioning FC already! And although the 10 year old was acting like a typical 10 year old, I feel really mad at him...like he should have known better!

yabu the older was a bit mean but not lying. bit wrong to make him sound like he was.

Grab your pop corn.

You are NBU being upset-totally understand you not wanting your 5y/o knowing this.

And TBH most 10 year olds would also understand that a 5 yr old would believe and that telling would possibly upset them (but as 10 year old go they wouldn't understand the long term implications). I knew at 9 yers old but never wanted to spoil my younger relations excitement at xmas so never told them. Maybe the 10 year old was angry-they do tend to spill the beans if riled

I would be cross if it had been an adult telling him but a child...

I can understand why you are pissed off, TBH I would have just glossed over it and said well there are plenty of people who think he is real, lets just wait and see if he brings presents will we, because mummy and daddy could never manage all that. Ans that santa helps out different families in different ways if he can.