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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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... for grassing up my dh to my PILs?

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choosyfloosy · 01/12/2008 21:58

Dh told me this evening that he's sent a letter to his parents saying that he wants to stop seeing them for a while (not forever). He's happy for me and ds to still see them.

I rang them this evening and let them know that the letter is coming tomorrow. feel fairly crap about doing this but i did it anyway - i hate getting bad news unexpectedly. AIBU?

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TheButterflyEffect · 01/12/2008 22:01

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babylovesmilk · 01/12/2008 22:02

Why did you do that?

OneBoyOneGirl · 01/12/2008 22:02

I would have left it to DH to deal with how he wanted tbh being his parents and all

solidgoldbrass · 01/12/2008 22:28

Yup YANBU. Your DH is entitled to deal with his parents however he sees fit.

LadyGlencoraPalliser · 01/12/2008 22:30

YABU I am afraid. I would not be happy if I were your DH.

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choosyfloosy · 01/12/2008 22:31

yup was afraid of this.

Shoot.

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ScottishMummy · 01/12/2008 22:39

you stuck your oar into his family business-why.hate bad news unexpectedly?it was his news to deliver as he saw fit

are you realistically saying next time you feel cross with someone, dh can usurp you by telephoning ahead of a private letter you sent?

maybe you just like mixing it?

Simply · 01/12/2008 22:44

choosyfloosy We've "spoken" before so I know some of the background. I'm guessing, but I think that the other posters wouldn't have posted what they did if they knew the background to all this. I think you need to put some context to this or you'll get unnecessary negative reactions.

You're one poster I really admire for how well you've coped during difficult situations previously. How are you? Sorry, I'm just off to bed as I've work tomorrow but I couldn't not post. Please be kind to yourself.

ScottishMummy · 01/12/2008 22:48

hey-ho AIBU by stealth.the incremental drip of information to build a compelling case for op

well just say that in 1st place if that is the case....why wait to get responses on scant potentially not full info, only to say "ahh the thing is...."

we naturally only answer your op

crankycrane · 01/12/2008 22:54

choosy- did you tell them this because of your respect and love for them? (just curious)
or shall we all wait for a bit more info and context

Simply · 01/12/2008 22:59

I see your point ScottishMummy and would agree with it if I wasn't worried about why the OP felt the need to start this thread. I hope you're okay choosyfloosy but I guess things are hard from your dh feeling the need to write a letter like that.

As choosyfloosy hasn't come back to the thread yet, please can I ask for it to drop off the Active Conversations list by no-one else posting on it? I wouldn't ask if I wasn't worried about the OP. She might want to have the thread pulled in the morning. I don't think this thread is going to help if things are tough at home. It would be better in another section and under a different title.

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choosyfloosy · 01/12/2008 23:17

Simply you're very lovely and thank you - but I kind of wanted to get unvarnished opinions based on the raw facts - it's too easy to think we are some kind of special case, I wanted to know what the general opinion of this was.

Found out too! so it's been helpful. Am not sitting here about to top myself, honest.

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