To refuse to set foot in another Golf Club (long, sorry)

[Quattrocento]

I don't like Golf Clubs.

This is as a result of having to set foot in one five years ago for a meeting connected with a friend's hobby which is not Golf. I turned up to said Golf Club in jeans. This is apparently a no-no in Golf Club circles. They tried to throw me out. I explained I had travelled a hundred miles and was unaware of their quaint habits dress code and moreover did not have a change of clothes with me. I offered to take my jeans off. They decided after much tutting to let me stay.

This had been a very trying experience so you'll understand that I made a beeline for the bar. More tutting ensued. I explained to the barman again that I was sorry for ever having thought that jeans were acceptable. He said "It's not your jeans love. though they don't help. I'm not allowed to serve women."

It was at this point that I lost my sense of humour. Anyhow, eventually they served me.

DS has a party on Sunday in a (different)Golf Club. AIBU to refuse on the grounds that all Golf Club afficionados are quite clearly bonkers?

How old is DS? I'm surprised they let children in there. Perhaps it isn't as snobby as the one you went in before?
I would go in for the sake of DS, but you are not BU to hate golf clubs. They are shite and full of bores.

a) does your ds care whether he goes or not?

b) do you have a partner who can be dragooned into this?

Given your experience which is , I wouldn't go - but given mine I would, just because I will go to the opening of a children's envelope as it is free entertainment for ds and chat for me.

Weird place to choose to have a child's party but maybe it is a nice place. Or cheap.

DS is 8. Apparently they do have a room that they let out for "functions" and it's in this room that the party is being held. DS is a bit too old for magicians and stuff which is what I suspect this will involve. But mainly I loathe Golf Clubs and never want to set foot in one again.

Can't you amuse yourself by farting in the foyer or something? Silently taking the p--- out of the golfers in their clown shoes and awful jumoers? That's what I would do if push came to shove.

my other half is a golf pro and i bloody hate the Golf Club.
think yourself lucky it's just the odd funtion you have to go to, DS & I are expected to regularly appear!

turn up in shell suit and football top

"don't serve women" - do they not allow women golfers there then? or only tee total ones??

at the one where you went!
the one near us is nice and although has dress code etc its not strict.and they certainly do serve ladies!

dd and ds1 are going there on friday for a school trip with golf club!
we go for balls etc-not as glam as it sounds.

I think they did have women golfers but only those who knew their place and were prepared to wait for male golfers to buy them a drink ...

Sometimes I wonder.

Not ALL clubs are this backward any more Quattro but still, many are.

I play golf.

I love golf.

I won't join a golf club until they sort all the stupidity out.

BUT, your DS has a party invite and it's a shame if he misses out because of other adult's stupidity. I'd bite my tongue and go.

Didn't realise there were still clubs that did this!!

My sons and dh play golf, am proud that ds1 has earned early membership after completing his youngmasters course.

Their club is brilliant. They do have a dress code, but also a seperate bar that you can wear jeans in. We have had some great nights out there over the years, love their family summer bbq, and we're having xmas dinner there this year. Oh, and women can most definately buy their own drinks.

Sorry you've had unpleasant times in the clubs you've been to so far, but please don't think they're all like this. Let your son go on Sunday, and maybe (hopefully) this club will be one of the more relaxed ones.

"I think they did have women golfers but only those who knew their place and were prepared to wait for male golfers to buy them a drink ..."

surely it was more a case of having a lounge for all members and a bar which was men only?

and fwiw i'd agree ith the clubs rights to set it's own rules and as others have said if you do not agree with them by all means do not go there again.

but i do not see how it is the clubs fault that you failed to meet their dress code.

Nope they had one place that served drinks which styled itself a lounge but it looked more like a bar to me. It was the only place that served drinks. I remember it vividly. Ghastly place.

Oh yes on the dress code I'm afraid I spend too much time dressing up at work or for functions to want to do it in my leisure time, so I acknowledge fault on that score. Although of course if they have strange habits then I do think they should forewarn the uninitiated.

I'll clench my teeth and go but it's against my principles.

Hello blondiep14 my oh is a golfpro too. Though my experience of golf clubs is different. He has been at his current one for 16 years and it is lovely. They do have a dress code (no jeans, only white short socks or knee highs with shorts) it is very friendly and I love going there. Have made lots of friends - staff and members. They did have a 'stud bar' (men only, studded golf shoes allowed) but they got rid of this about 10 years ago. We have 2 children (14 and 20) and both have been going from a very young age and though they were often the only children there (average age of a golf club members is about 60!) they were always made a fuss of and made welcome.

We are having a childrens christmas party this Saturday and have about 60 children coming.