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To think this is horrible?

7 replies

DryThroat · 30/11/2008 22:11

A woman that lives down our street asked if I wanted a lift. I accepted as it was raining really badly and I knew her from school. The car absolutely reeked awful like a mix between mouldy food and sweat. It was a complete tip, crap everywhere.

The next day she asked me again, I declined but she persisted and seemed offended so I begrudgingly accepted. I had to get in the back as her blind husband was in the front (blindness is significant later on). Anyway they had their toddler in a car seat in the back and she was filthy. She was covered in dried food, she was holding a bottle with had dog hairs and general dirt all over the teat and her fingers were actually STUCK TOGETHER with mushed up rusk which had dried.

I had to ask to be let out of the car early because I started to feel sick and the baby kept touching me and the crap all over her hands was being wiped all over my new coat and I'm quite 'sensitive' to dirt and stuff at the best of times. I thought I was going to be sick.

But since then I've seen the blind husband wandering around and his clothes are always filthy. Covered in dried food, dog hairs, paint and god knows what else. The other day their little girl whispered to me "dad has got dog shit on him but he doesn't know!" and giggled.

As he's blind, I'm assuming he relies on the woman to point stuff like this out to him but as she keeps the baby in the same state, is it possible they're just a family that don't mind dirt?

I feel for all of them but I know I am a bit of a 'clean freak' so perhaps I've over-reacting or BU?

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lovelydear · 30/11/2008 22:14

sounds tricky. i'll be interested to know what others suggest as i have a neighbour whose house smells so badly that i gag when he opens the front door. i haven't been in side. i think his wife is housebound, he gets about on foot, v slowly. i think they need some support, and presumably they might be entitled to it, but i don't want to 'shop' them, as it were. how do you get help for people without upsetting them?

Alambil · 30/11/2008 22:14

It's possible that the mum is not coping very well rather than deliberately living like it.

PavlovtheCat · 30/11/2008 22:17

Sounds like me on a Friday when DH is at work and I am 'home alone'
LOL at 'the baby kept touching me and the crap all over her hands was being wiped all over my new coat and I'm quite 'sensitive' to dirt and stuff at the best of times. I thought I was going to be sick'. Sorry.

wfl · 30/11/2008 22:42

No you are not being unreasonable. If you think this is horrible then you think it is horrible.

Can't really understand what you are asking or what the point of your post is.

TheSmallClanger · 30/11/2008 22:43

My first thought would be the same as LewisFan's. Do you have any non-dirt-phobic friends who agree with you about this family?

glitterball · 30/11/2008 22:54

i have to say blind or not im sure he knows whether or not his clothes are clean or covered in dog shit.

my old neighbours were both blind. they and their children (and their guide dogs) from what i saw were always spotlessly clean...probably more so than me & my dcs!

possibly therefore they are both not coping, not just the wife.

babylovesmilk · 30/11/2008 23:23

I though you were talking about my car until I read on. They sound like they might have menatl health issues? Is there anyway you can help, prehaps talk to the HV?

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