Not to want to buy christmas presents when my husband has just lost his job?

[coopsyblue]

My dh lost his job on Friday which as you can imagine is a bit of a shock.

We had planned to go Christmas shopping together next Friday, this morning we had an email from his sil asking for a wii game for one of her kids and ELC stuff for the other. I said to my dh that obviously we wont be buying pressies this year,as we dont know when/if he will get another job. He thinks we should still buy for all the children in the family and spend £10 on each which adds up to over £100. I think this is too much and in the present (excuse the somewhat weak joke) we should be saving every penny we have what do other people think?

Does his sister know the situation you are in?
If you can't afford to buy presents you need to get him to tell asap.

yanbu

in this family one person every year takes a year off from buying presents - this year it's my mil - going through a shitty divorce and is skint

you have a great reason not to buy anything for anyone else

Firstly, sorry to hear your news. Bad timing.

I agree with you completely. It would be crazy to spend unnessary money when as you say, you don't know how long this situ will last.

I'm sure if you explain to your family, they will understand. I know i and my family would... You could suggest that once dh is re-employed you will treat the children.

I kind of see your dh's point as it's maybe a pride thing for him.

Sorry what about a small token gift for the kids if your dh wants to maybe a small selection box or something.

Thanks for your support I do think it is a pride thing with my dh, he's so shocked he just keeps saying he's sorry.

i think you are right we should treat the children/ have a party when he finds another job

you sound v. sensible. if not giving a present isn't an option, i would buy a selection boxes

Fingers crossed your DH gets another job soon.

In the meantime I would email your SIL and explain and say you will be getting token presents this year.

The Book People have great deals on books.

I would second what custy and buda say - selction pack or cheap book for the kids. get your kids to make cards.

Hope DH gets a job soon. x

We are in the same boat this year coopsyblue. DP lost his job a few weeks ago. I have told all the family that we will only be buying presents for children and both of our mums, have spent max of £6 on each child (bargains from the entertainer, 3 for 2s at woolies, boots etc) and got 2 jumpers for £20 from Tescos for our mums. Everyone in the family was fine about it. Its bad enough being out of work without worrying about going into debt buying expensive presents.

Hope your DH gets another job - v hard at the moment - doesn't seem to be many jobs.

I'd do a small token gift: second-hand book from the charity shop, that sort of thing.

We are in the same boat, grim isn't it. We had already started buying for children, but have limited spending to under a tenner for each. We are making ginger biscuits for the adults. You sound jolly sensible, don't think you are being at all unreasonable

Hopefully your SIL did not know that your dh had lost his job when she emailed. If she did, then that is disgraceful. My BIL recently lost his job, his wife is pregnant and they are about 3/4 way through extending their house (i.e. too late to stop!) I would be horrified if they bought us presents this year and asked them not even to buy for our boys but they said they would still like to buy some books for the boys.

OP - ahhh this feels like home. My dh woke me up after my nightshift Fri to the news he's redundant, hand in your keys and go home.

I can't even face Christmas so you're doing well.

Think I'll get dd to bake cookies or something [no organic flour and green and black chocolate mind you ] and just give those in a pretty bag. And a tag saying made with love by Jess. That's if can muster enthusiasm.

YANBU