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To think that my sister's boyfriend is a feckin waste of space (RANT ALERT!)

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babyignoramus · 30/11/2008 13:59

Bit of background - my sister is 20 (a lot younger than me). She was with her boyfriend who's about 3 years older for about 6 months, then she got pregnant (at 17). My niece is now two and has a disability.

Life is pretty tough for her but I think she copes amazingly and I'm so proud of her. BUT, her boyfriend is hopeless! He works full time and is actually earning quite a decent wage now, but fritters it all away on stuff for himself (eg a while back he bought himself a bangle for £75). My sister pays for rent, food, bills etc all out of her wages from her weekend job in a shop, plus carer's allowance and child benefit. She also ends up spending a fortune on travel to and from hospital appointments. The only thing he pays for is the council tax and last month she had a letter from them saying they were in arrears so he hadn't even done that! .

She rang me on Friday and said that her DD had been ill and hadn't slept properly all week so she was knackered. As she works Sat and Sun, her Boyf takes his turn to get up to their DD in the night on Fridays and Saturdays so my sister can get a proper night's sleep. Then half an hour later she calls me again to say that he's been to the pub and was so drunk he was incapable of looking after a small child. She was really upset amd said she doesn't understand why he does it when he knows it's is turn to get up. It makes so so bloody - he's selfish and needs to grow a pair but I can't interfere, it's up to my sis to have it out with him! So frustrating!!

Phew, needed that!

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thepinkprincess · 30/11/2008 14:46

poor girl, sounds like she needs to have a sit down with him and sort things out properly, also he sounds very immature. does she have any body close by to help her?

LoveBeingAMummy · 30/11/2008 19:10

Sounds like she's a real star and not your average teenage mum - just keep being there for her she'll realise soon enough.

babyignoramus · 30/11/2008 19:21

Thank you both. I realise that it's up to her - and fair play to him, at least he stuck around which is more than can be said for the fathers of most of the disabled children she's met through support groups . It's difficult restraining myself rom kicking him in the bottom though. Lucky for him they live 50 miles away!

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