to be completely rubbish at running a home/ housekeeping/ all things related

[BarbieLovesKen]

This is embarrasing really and something thats been bothering me for ages.

Our house is filthy I cant understand how we let it get into such an absolute state but we do - its almost constantly at the "oh God dont let anyone call" stage.

I go to other people's homes and they are always so well kept and lovely - and wonder how they do it.

Every few weeks Ill make a big go at it and will scrub out presses/ walls/ skirting boards and pretty much anything I can get my hands on - and will vow to keep it this way yet, 3 days later I'm back to square one.

Our washing is constantly piled sky high e.g. 2 - 3 baskets full plus a pile thrown on the utility floor. Again, Ill spend a whole day and night every now and then at this, will get it down - vow to keep on top of it but 2 days later.....

I used to blame the state of our house on the fact it was so, so tiny and we had so much stuff and no where to put it - we lived in a teeny cottage for a few years, up until July when we moved into the house we spend the last few years building.

This new house is kept exactly the same - its not huge in general, but is huge to me and I cant use the "no room for stuff" excuse anymore. Also, its such a beautiful home and we worked so hard to get it, I cant understand why we cant just take pride in it!!!!.

Im really disgusted in myself to be honest.

Ill often say I/dd need new clothes etc.. only to do one of my big cleans and find lots of clothes just thrown in bottom of wardrobe/ under bed.. its ridiculous.

DH and I do both work full time but I dont think its an excuse at all. We only have 1 dd and I've seen parents with 5 children run a way better house than us. I have never thought myself as being lazy - I seem to always have something to do but maybe I am.

I'm rubbish at cooking but make the odd attempt at it - I have never baked in my life. I'm awful at budgeting/ handling the finances etc. I feel like such a failure particulary when I read about people here who seem to manage it all so well and with much more difficult circumstances that mine.

Please can anyone help transform us into domestic God and Godess?? its really taken its toll and really taking over our lifes.

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You both need to be doing an hour's housework a day each, or paying someone else to do some.

As you are both working full time, weekends are going to have to be "cleaning the bathroom, putting clean laundry away, hoovering floors and tidying bedrooms" time.

And in the evening, you need to be putting things away when you finish with them, washing up and drying up and putting away after dinner, clearing toys before bedtime, taking dirty washing to the wash basket with you..

Are you organised at work?

If you are all out of the house during the day it should be easy because no one is there to mess up
Put washing in the washer daily load in the evening with powder etc ready and just switch it on while you wait for the kettle in the morning.
Iron while watching TV
When you finished dinner get DH to bath dd while you sort downstairs i.e. wash up dishes, hoover downstairs and mop the floor if it needs it. Train everyone to put dirty clothes in the washer instead of the basket, that way you can see when it needs to go on. Choose the best time at a weekend to pick a room to thoroughly clean/ run the hoover and duster round upstairs.
My house is not immaculate but we have 2 dds under 3 and I am at home with them so it is difficult to iron during the day.
Failing that get a cleaner!

Or we could phone Kim and Aggie for you