(sleepover anxiety re. 10 yr old daughter)

[onthepier]

I'm just interested in other opinions, whether I'm right to feel unsure about this or whether I'm being completely silly!

Basically my 10 yr old dd's friend is a boy in her class, also coming up for 10. He often comes to our house + on day trips with us, and in return my dd has been to quite a few sleepovers at his house. I like him very much and his family, and him and my dd have been inseparable for about two years now.

Anyway, recently my dd stayed the night there and her friend's mum told me how she had to have words with them because they took ages settling for the night, messing around + swapping beds etc. I asked my dd later + I could sense she felt awkward. She said that her friend kept trying to get into bed with her at different times throughout the night, she didn't like it and they both got told off for running around the bedroom.

This worries me a bit as although my dd is still quite "sweet and innocent", I'm thinking in a year or so's time this won't be innocent behaviour at all. Her friend seems quite wordly wise about everything although he's about the same age, I'm pondering whether to mention my concerns to the mum, my dd is due to go there for a party in the Xmas hols, staying the night which she is still keen to do. To be honest I'm not sure if she should.

Off course to mention it to the mum as u get on well wiv the family so it wont come "across" in a silly way.. i mean i dont think i would let my daughter sleep in same bedroom anyway as a boy at their age..but still ...mention it anyway i so would as family come first an with children they are more vunrable...an got to tread carefully...

I think you will have to voice your concern to the mum. You might even find out that the other mum would be more comfortable as well if the did not share the same bedroom. If she (mum) told you she had to have words with them on the night, it mignt have been her way to voice the very same concern. + the fact that DD felt akward shows that she is growing up and might need more privacy.

Thank you for your replies, I've thought about it and will mention it, like you say, she may be having similar concerns. Having coffee with her this week so will bring up the subject, a bit awkward but will feel better when I have.