To think that this was a bit below the belt?

[CarmerKharma]

DH has just come home annoyed. I asked what was wrong and he said he'd bumped into another parent from school and she commented on how tall DS was. DH said to her "I don't know where he gets it from because I'm not that tall and neither is my wife" so she replied "ah, but how tall is the milkman?" and laughed. I know she was only joking but am I being a miserable cow to be a bit annoyed by it?

Just wondering if you and your DH have matching scars?

(sense of humour surgically removed)....

It is a very old joke, and nobody thinks anything about it, but when you break it down, it is a joke implying that you have been unfaithful and your husband is not the father of your child.

Now, if she had said "well, she's a bit flirty and he's nothing like you, are you sure you are the father hahaha?" or anything like that, I think people would have said that was a bit off. But make the old joke about the milkman and that's ok. because nobody thinks what the meaning behind the old joke actually is. or considers whether such kind of joke is appropriate.

you should accept something being said because it has been said so many times before to so many people. Does that make something ok then?

Crikey, dh and I make that joke about ourselves! We are both short and ds is turning out to be quite tall so we joke about our tall milkman, doesn't mean dh thinks I've slept with the milkman!

Not quite the same if it is a private joke between you and DH as being told by a parent in school though is it.

YABU, If someone says anything about kids not taking after them then this joke is very nearly compulsary. It's used when there is no real doubt in the mind of the speaker. Otherwise they wouldn't risk it in case there was some truth in it.

It got used a lot in my family. My sister and I (born close together) looked almost like twins and totally unlike our parents or 5 siblings. (I look like my dad now I've lost much of my hair)

Goodness me! I remember the sonographer asking if baby looked like anyone - I myself joked "yeah, the milkman!". With DH there. No one actually thought i'd been shagging the milkman. We don't even have a milkman.