to have been a lot more forgiving around the time of ovulation?

[Amethyst86]

I ask because H during a few "discussions" we have had in recent months accused me of being "sly" when we were trying to conceive. It took over a year to get pregnant and around the time of ovulation I have to say that if we had any kind of disagreement I was a lot more understanding than I might otherwise have been as I didn't want to miss that months "chance".

I told him to get real and that this was so common that they even made an episode of "Friends" about it. So did anyone else do this? or am I just a deceptive cow of the highest order?

Isn't this normal? How else do people reproduce - oh apart from alchohol?

Blimey, everyone does this surely? I have forgiven dh ridiculous amounts of crap I've had to deal with just because I was ov'ing.

Last night was a classic, he went to an awards ceremony, said he'd be back at about midnight. Eventually came in around 4am, roaring drunk, couldn't even speak. Was covered in puke as he'd thrown up in the cab on the way home. Dumped his puke soaked clothes on the hall floor, proceeded to hurl abuse at me as I dragged his stinking corpse to bed. Didn't even thank me when I brought him a big glass of water and 2 paracetomol this morning. (he has been a bit more humble this afternoon when I called him)

I have been jolly nice to him considering, as I reckon I ov'd last night so tonight is prob my last chance this month of ttc. I even made him a sausage sandwich before I went to work ffs! I'm too nice but I want ds to have a sibling sometime soon too.

Of course yanbu, you are looking at the bigger picture which is about conceiving at the right time.

If the arguement is not about something relationship threatening then it needs to be let go. It's probably a good lesson in looking at what's important in life!

I agree with all these posts. It just seems to be something that rankles with him for some reason, probably because it was out of his control to a certain extent. To be clear we both really wanted to conceive so I don't think I was pulling the wool over his eyes and I really had to bite my bloody tongue sometimes. Getting dd was much more important than petty squabbles though.

So he's upset with you for sometimes being too forgiving?

Right.

Ok.

He says he can't understand how he becomes the "sexiest man alive" when we are ttc. You don't pal, you are just an essential part of the equation.

I do try and tell him he's gorgeous at other times too. I know it doesn't sound it from my earlier post, but he is usually. And he's pretty cute sometimes too (although strangely not last night). Most men know when to shut up when they want to watch the footy/go out with the boys/dismantle a motorbike in the living room so they can't profess to be so innocent.

yep, have done this

had mega fertility problems so was essential to shag at the right time

we weren't actually speaking at the time and he was at work

I rang him at lunchtime to say "you need to come home and shag me right now". He did and then went back to work

not romantic, but needs must, hey?

actually he understood and didn't give me any for it