To think it is a bit rude not to say thank you for birthday (and Christmas) presents?

[ohdearwhatamess]

I'm a bit scred to enter the AIBU area, but here goes....

One of my nieces has recently had a birthday. I sent a card and present. Neither her nor my SIL (or BIL for that matter) have phoned to say thank-you, and they never do. There are 4 children, which adds up to a lot of presents in a year.

I like picking out a gift that I think they'll like, and I try to put some thought into it (which doesn't happen the other way round, but that's another story).

Is this normal behaviour now? I wouldn't expect a letter or card (although I'd be really touched to receive one), just a quick call or an email.

Don't get me started. DH has two nieces who live abroad. We send presents which never get acknowledged, so this year DH suggested tentatively that we might give their parents money to choose something for them and wrap it up. Got a cool response, so we chose presents, posted them and again got no thanks.

Incredibly rude imo.

Oh YANBU at all.
i have a lot to vent on this but it's very dull so i won't but no YANBU!

I have exactly the same with my BIL's kids, to the extent I actually mentioned it to my MIL a couple of years ago. She said 'Oh, you know what they're like..."

I just about resisted saying 'What? Bloody rude?!