To take DD to see the nutcracker ballet leaving DH to amuse DD2?

[drivinmecrazy]

I think not, but he's sooo not happy. Mum has bought my DD1 and I tickets to see the English national ballet perform the Nutcracker in London on boxing day. It will be her first trip to the ballet, so I am really excited for her. DD2 is just 3, so mum has said she will buy them tickets to panto instead (maybe cinderella).
But he is so jealous. He would rather take her to see treasure island, but with Keith Allen i would imagine it might be a bit dark for a 3 yo.
i think it should be a Mothers privelige to take her ballet mad daughter to her first proper ballet
Ah well, roll on boxing day

YANBU, your mum has bought a lovely treat for you and dd and offered to pay for the panto.

If he doesn't think the panto is a good idea (which it might not be for a 3yo) then he can come up with something age appropriate for her. I don't really see what he has to be unhapppy about.

YANBU - what a daft git. him obviously

YANBU - stuff him, ooh that's sooo exciting, have fun!

Is there a nemo on ice type thing coming up which might be better than a panto ?
He's being a scrooge ignore.

my three year old loves ballet - why not get two more tickets and go all together. My Dh had to take dd for a walk when the 'scary mice' came out - but she was entranced by the first and the last acts.
panto she doesn't get at all. finds it too noisy, and the dame scary.

sorry - that should be past tense - she loved christmas nutcracker ballet past two years (when she was nearly 3 and nearly 4) - and is looking forward to it this year again (nearly 5). my tip is to get tickets as close to the front as you can, so the stage holds their attention, and tell them the story & listen to the music beforehand

I wouldn't mind taking her but a) tickets £60 so a bit of a waste if she doesn't want to sit and watch b) I really like the idea of doing something just the two of us. We very rarely do things on our own.

YANBU at all. I love having time with DD1 (5 yrs old) on her own - it doesn't happen very often, and it's really special. And she loves ballet too - I took her to see the London Children's Ballet do 'Jane Eyre' a few months ago, just the two of us, and it was fab.

Tell DH to get a grip. Perhaps he could take DD1 out by himself another day. I think it's important for older siblings to have the chance to do something 'grown up' with their parents without the younger ones always having to come.

well, I do understand that.

In that case, why not suggest something 'off the leash' for your Dh and Dd2 to do at the same time. Some harmless fun you normally disapprove of (pick and mix and watch a video, or lunch in McDonalds or a trip to see your Dhs friends?

I'm taking ds1 and my sister and niece to see A Christmas Carol at The Rose in Kingston and leaving dh with dd and ds2 for most of the day. he's fine with it, even though he would enjoy seeing the show. YANBU at all, it's about juggling family life.

He could take DD2 to the cinema - isn't Madagascar 2 out at Christmas?
And no YANBU

Hmm, I can imagine my DH being a bit upset if I or someone else had arranged for me to take DD1 to her first ballet, because he would probably want to come too. We are hoping to take DD1 to her first pantomime this year and it would be much easier if one of us went and the other stayed with DD2, but neither of us wants to miss it, so we are trying to get someone to come and sit with DD2. Could you get an extra ticket for your DH, and get someone to babysit?