if I refuse to drive to a town 50 minutes away, 3 weeks 3 days post C-Section, to meet my PIL?

[MamaG]

They have DH's birthday gift and want me to drive to meet them, a town about halfway between us. I haven't driven yet. GP said OK to drive after a month, it will actually be just short of that.

That aside, I don't WANT to drive for 50 minutes, walk around a freezing town, drive 50 minutes back and somehow fit in BF my small baby at God knows where!

I'm going to ring them and say no, I think, that they can come to us for lunch but I'm not up to teh driving.

AIBU?

DH doesn't drive btw

YANBU, it doesn't matter what your doc has actually said to you, just quote them the 6 weeks figure and say that you can't drive.

It's still very early days and although it might be a PITA for them they should either make the effort to drive through or just post the present.

Don't go - yanbu.
They should investigate the cost of a courier which might not be much more than the cost of your petrol.

yanbu

yanbu say doc says nv driving for 6 weeks
invite them for lunch, it might be nice

I knew this would be your thread MamaG.

I think this is the third thread in which I tell you to REST!

DH can wait for his present (maybe that will encourage him to learn how to drive? I'm also a non-driver btw).

I was driving fairly short distances 3 weeks after both my sections but not sure would have felt happy with 2 x 50 min drives (I started to feel achy after about 15 mins). Would be very irritated if people expected me to and it. You're not being at all unreasonable. Just say you've been told not to drive. Most people believe you can't drive for 6 weeks anyway.

YANBU and don't be made to feel bad about it either. You are refusing for a very good reason.

belgo - I'm not very good at resting am I?!

I have just phoned MIL and said, firmly, that I won't be driving to Richmond on Saturday and would they like to come for lunch instead - she said yes to that, so jolly good result all round. DH can do the cooking, MIL will wash up, FIL will get on my nerves do nothing but more importantly I will do nothing apart from feed DS2!

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You need to check with your car insurance as to wether you will be covered yet (some insist on the 6 weeks)

Yes I rang them cov, they said they were happy for me to drive as long as GP said it was ok

Yanbu, I don't think you will be insured either, and even if you are it is the perfect excuse.

YANBU. There's no way I would have driven that kind of distance so soon after a c-sec, regardless of what anyone said - I found I became exhausted unexpectedly in the first three months after both of my c-secs even in gentle situations when I thought I would be fine, and you would have to drive for 50 minutes both ways. It's madness.

I drove after about two weeks, cleared by my GP. NO problem. It's more the hassle of the baby that would be on my mind.

Well - if the gp's said 4 weeks, and you are under the 4 weeks, then your insurance will not be covering you in the event of an accident. I'd tell your PILs this.

Frankly you are not being unreasonable anyway - they are being totally unreasonable to expect you to drive 100 miles just after major surgery and with a newborn baby. Your health and wellbeing and that of the baby are far more important, imo.

Isn't that what post offices are for?

The physio who checked my (absent, curled up and hiding) stomach muscles after a crash CS said that if a bloke had abdominal surgery of that nature he's be in hospital for a least a week and off work for 6, but as it's a CS we're sending you home with a new baby to look after