to be upset at my friend's comments?

[Webstermum]

Have recently returned to being SAHM due to work stress. TBH have 2 ds's 1 with ASD & find it easier not to work. Am feeling a bit down and missing company so don't know if i'm overreacting but my friend who hasnt worked at all until recently keeps saying 'oh i couldn't possibly go back to sitting at home all day' This upsets me AIBU?

well she is really talking about her own feelings of enjoying being at work

she is not very sensitive but she isn't trying to upset you

I wouldn't just brush it off

Dpnt let it get to you, she is just justifying her own decision to herself out loud really.

Just say back 'oh really? good job you're back at work then. We're always busy doing stuff at home so dont have that problem myself'

YABU

Maybe she is feeling anxious or guilty about her own decision? Sounds like she is reassuring herself and reinforcing her own choice to me. Anyway, I wouldn't care, personally, but then I am horrifically thick skinned.

Well she's clearly got no idea of what being an SAHM is then has she? Sitting at home all day - tsk!

You've made the right choice for you and your family and your friend is probably feeling a little sensitive about her choices.

I have had this comment from a friend too. I am a SAHM to 5 year old twins but I certainly don't sit at home all day like she seems to think I do now they are at school full-time. Who does?

I help out at school one day a week, I look after and pick up friends young children from play-group and pre-school, do a weekly shop at Tesco for my parents and do all of the housework and all of the financial stuff.

Ignore her. You do your thing and she can do hers.

I'm just upset because I have always worked since having ds1, part-time or whatever and she hasn't - ds's are same age. It was always me who couldnt do stuff cause i was working & now roles are reversed i dont know if shes jealous or what but i dont sit at home all day - if anything i'm busier than ever. Maybe it's just not what i expect from a friend

It's always a bit upsetting if people we count as friends say things which make it seem like they don't really know you at all - it's a disappointment. But I don't think she's saying it to be nasty, just that she doesn't see the difference between her own choices and situation, and yours. She hasn't worked till recently, presumably she found her children had reached an age and stage in development where she did have time on her hands and wanted to go back to work. Well, fine for her. You are in a different situation - maybe you just need to point that out to her if she keeps commenting on it.

Thanks AMum you're right i will do that otherwise her comments might spoil an otherwise good frienship. I am happy for her that she has found a job she loves i want her to be happy for me that i have made the right choice for me at the moment