okay so newly seperated, we both work shift patterns which means that when i am at work he is off so he can look after the children and enable me to continue to work. This arrangement has worked fine up until now. this sunday exp has been offered overtime at work, it is worth about £250 to him but i am on a late shift at work. i have just found out today i have been promoted, i do not want to start messing about with my shifts. Anyway a friend has offered to have my four children for me from 2-6 and then when he finishes work he will need to collect them and look after them until i finish work at ten. i have said that he can do it at my house to save him having to take them back to his flat and me having to pick them up late at night. he is stressing that he can't finish a twelve hour shift then have the children until ten when he is due to work and early shift the next day. AIBU in expecting him to do this? he has placed me in a very awkward position I can't jeopardise my job, it means alot to me. He has put us in a difficult position in accepting overtime and whilst i understand totally that he needs the money i don't think it's fair for it to be to my detrement.