to get annoyed with DP when he goes out and stays out late on a Mon/Tues?

[beaniebaby25]

This has been going on for a couple of months now and it's starting to really p!ss me off, and it's lead to an argument tonight.

We've been together for 4 yrs, one or two ups and downs but generally a really good relationship. For about the last 2 months his friend (who he does some work with outide of normal work - both 'creative' types) is always around on a Monday or Tuesday night in his studio and my DP goes to see him. He tends to leave after dinner (around 9pm) but this has been getting later and later (he left tonight at 10pm) and he doesn't come home until around 2am. Apart fron not understanding why anyone would want to go out when it's freezing, late and dark, the main reason I get annoyed - he always wakes me up when he gets in, and i also find it hard to sleep when he's out (which sounds lame). So - AIBU to be annoyed at him for going out late on a mon/tues? we both work full time, no DCs (yet) and generally happy. Is his behaviour selfish? Or am i the unselfish one for being annoyed that i get woken up? could do with some impartial advice, wise MNers... on a friday or thursday i dont think i'd mind so much...

thanks for all the replies. i still go out if i want to, jhe doesnt tell me not to, i just tended not to recenty cos of money etc. when he goes out it doesnt cost him much as he's round a friends and he cycles so money issue is ok there. i guess the best way round is for him to maybe sleep on sofa... but, saying that, last night he DIDN'T ACTUALLY WAKE ME UP! he came in at 2.30, he told me today. maybe cos he knew i was cross about it he was extra quiet? so now i know he can be done without him waking me i hope the waking up thing will be an exception rather than the rule.

blonds, i thought someone might suggest that but thats def not the cae, i know his mate, hes a good friend and they go to his friends studio every week, where they both work on projects etc. DP is very career minded and the work he does there contributes to his career etc, so really dont begrudge it, also they r good mates. he cant stay there tho, not 'sleepable' if thats a word and his mates doesnt live there - its a way home for him.

on another note that someone else said, we've lived together for 3 years so well used to each others habits etc. he's only been going to his mates studio for the last year or so, and it always used to be on a thursday. but now its earlier in the week its starting to cause problems re the waking up thing.

hmmmm.....