To expect dh to say "Happy Birthday" to me this morning, and maybe even make me a cup of tea?

[SoMuchToBits]

I was woken up this morning by ds (aged 7) saying "Happy birthday, Mummy" and giving me a cuddle. He then went to fetch my present from him, and watched while I opened it, Then fetched my other presents/cards which had already arrived and helped me with those. Meanwhile dh lay in bed, just grunting.

As a) It's my birthday and
b) I have a raging sore throat (which I had since yetserday, so dh knew about)

AIBU to expect him, after I said "I would love a cup of tea" to go and make one? Or even to lift his head off the pillow and say "Happy Birthday"? Even after ds had prodded him and asked him to make a cup of tea for Mummy, he did nothing. I know I'm old (47), but I did think this was maybe a reasonable request. Or AIBU?

Awful - my dh is the one sorting the kids out and wakes me up with coffee every morning!

I don't expect him to make tea for me regularly of a morning, but thought this might be the exception, especially after ds had prodded him (ds is a star!)

Have you had a card or a present from him? I was going to suggest ignoring his birthday, but then that's childish, sinking to his level behaviour. All you can do is spell out exactly how shit his behaviour has made you feel.

What a git, but isn't your DS a star!!! Mine, same age, would never be so generous!

I did have a card and present, Hassled, which he brought downstairs later (I had already got up, showered, dressed and got breakfast for ds and myself by then). His excuse was "I had a sore tummy" - he often gets a "sore tummy", I think it is because he worries a lot about everything (stress-related). I have tried to help with this, but although I have tried very hard to relieve any stress I can in his life, he still seems to worry about anything there is to worry about.

I think the other thing is, he doesn't se things like birthdays as being very important. I'm not into huge celebrations myself, but would love to have had a small thing like a cup of tea brought up to me (as it's not an everyday occurrence).

mothers day, for me, i get a cup of tea in bed,
only time of the bloody year

I don't usually get one on Mother's Day either, LOL!

Yes, ds is a real star - he was almost as excited about my birthday as he is about his own (in 11 days' time!)

and counting i bet

Oh yes!

Just wait until we get out the advent calendar!!!

Oh, Good, then at least no-one (so far) has thought AIBU. He is now watching the tv (with his hadphones on)

So, did you have a good rest of birthday (after the lack of tea?) I would be a bit very pissed off if DH watched the telly with headphones on my birthday.

YANBU. I think you've been rather restrained in the circumstances.