To ask my sisters friend to babysit for me?

[spookycharlotte121]

The girl is practicly family. She is going to be god parent to the kids and is a sensible person that I trust with the kids. I discussed it with her and I have said I will pay her so I dont see what the problem is.
My younger sister on the other hand has got really funny about it and said Its embrarresing her that I keep asking and that she doesnt want me to do it again

Its not like Im asking her every weekend. I dont go out very often but the girls from my NCT group are going out for a meal and cocktails and I would really like to be able to go. I missed the last night out and would like to make this one. Im desperate for a night out and the babysitter doesnt seem to have a problem about it. I thought as a teenager she would find the money useful as I know I did at her age. So should I respect my sisters feelings or should I just ask who I want to babysit and ignore her (IMO) childish behaviour?

What's it got to do with your sister? If you're happy for this girl to take care of your DC and she's happy to do it, what business is it of anyone else?

Just out of curiousity, how old are they?

Because it might cause a rift between the 2 of them. She also might put pressure on the girl and be rude to her because she has a problem with the arrangement. Its so annoying. I offered my sister the job first. I wouldnt be as happy with her having the kids but I thought that having a small job and some responsibility would do her some good, but she has turned me down. So I asked this girl and she was really happy for the money and was happy to be able to help out. She is a very sensible girl. Both her parents are blind so she has always had to deal more with most girls her age which is one of the reasons I trust her.

I just feel a bit angry with my younger sister. I dont have many friends or many oppertunities to go out and she is trying to stop me having 1 night out.

Oh they are 16. Sorry I forgot to say.

But why has she got a problem with it? How is it hurting her? Sounds like she needs to grow up and mind her own.

I think your sister needs to grow up a bit.

If you think it will help, then ask the girl you want to babysit to refuse you if it is causing her any trouble with your sister.

If not, then go ahead and get her to sit for you

My sister says its enbarressing. I txt the girl to check if it was an issue and she was just saying that she would do it because she was too embarressed to say no. She said that being christmas time she could do with some extra money and was happy to be helping me in the process.

If her friend is happy to do it and wants the extra cash - then tell your sister to butt out and leave you all to it. Turn it back on herself - ask her why she would want to deprive her friend of being able to earn some extra cash when she wants to.

It sounds to me as though she might be jealous of someone she sees as her friend having contact with you.

I have four sisters and remember how we could get annoyed at the most stupid things.

This is one of them times. Just ask her friend to sit for you.

If you dont, then you lose going on a good night out and your sister will most probably be annoyed about something different next week anyway.