No, not being unreasonable as christmas is all about children and family but christmas and family don't ever mix very well do they?????????
some families argue where NOT to have a family do, others argue about where TO have it, some want to do it themselves and frown upon anyone else in the family wanting to host and others will do almost anything not to host it themselves
christmas is not called the most stressful event of the year for nothing, and it is true, christmas and the arguments it causes is responsible for more divorces, family break ups, long running disputes and arguments than any other celebration on earth whether that celebration be one of goodwill toward all people or not!!
I had my one and only argument with my ex about christmas. we went to her family the first year my son was born and to mine the second year, that second year I said that the following year we should have a quiet one at home, just her, me and our son and she took it to mean that I hated her family and in that case she hated mine I only suggested this as each year at both families, she had become so stressed that I thought she would explode, I actually enjoyed watching her brothers make a cock up of christmas and dinner as on another thread about christmas disasters I have written previously about the all day christmas dinner they served up, not one course at a time, one veg or meat or stuffing at a time (although the stuffing did double up as a good door stop later on ) and we all had fun even when the tree (a pot plant hastily decorated as they had forgotten to get a tree) caught fire as they had placed it too close to the coal fire in the living room!!
christmas is too serious and too commercialised now I think for it to be enjoyed properly for what it is, a time of getting together and being happy, although if I am ''allowed'' to see my son for the first time on christmas day since we split (4 christmases ago), then that will be a very happy day wherever we are!!
ps, some of the happiest christmases I ever had were when my nan and grand dad ran an old peoples home. 50 residents and some of their family (but never that many ), the staff and many of their families, my family from both mum and dad sides all in one dining room, all helping out and then having a get together party type thing after in the main sitting room and then everyone crashing wherever they found a space, great fun!!