To ask my exp to sit down and talk to me on his own about our children without his gf present?

[spookycharlotte121]

I need to talk to him about various things about the kids. Anytime I see him normally, ie when he picks up or drops the kids off he is with his gf and I dont feel comfortable discussing some of the things we need to talk about in front of her. I dont think it necessairy for her to be present either. I would not insist on my bf being present as me and my ex are the parents and as much as our new partners are part of our lives I feel we actually need to be able to have a dicussion alone so that it is only our input and not that of a 3rd party. I dont have a problem with her having a say in things and even putting forward her opinion but I think that there is a need for just me and him to talk alone. There is no alterior motive in this. I just want to discuss some important things about the kids regarding access, money, nursery choice and their christening. Do you think it would cause an issue for me to suggest we talk alone? I dont mind doing it somewhere neutral like a cafe or at my house. I am just sick and tired of running up massive phone bills ringing his mobile to discuss the kids. It would also be a whole lot easier to talk face to face about things rather than on the phone.

So opinions please.

I would like to point out i dont have a problem with his gf being part of the decisions but I feel it important that we also talk alone.

I don't think it is unresonable, but thats not to say he will see it that way, or inded the GF.

I would suggest a neutral place like a cafe.

No, not unreasonable at all. Sounds really sensible to me. And I'm a step-mum.

Sounds like girlfriend is very insecure. My ex's GF wouldn't let him speak to me on the phone unless she was listening on an extension. She never, ever let him do pick up / drop offs unaccompanied. Sadly, there's not a lot you can do except grit your teeth and hope she is soon history.

fossa thats whats happening here. I even confronted exp about it and said does she not trust us together but he said I was being stupid. She always comes to a pick up and drop off and comes into my flat with exp now. I dont know what to do about it. Im quite offended if she doesnt trust us together. I just dont have any idea about how to go about asking him to sit down and talk to me.

well I will suggest it but i dont think it will get me anywhere. I just thought i would check what you lot thought before i did it.