would this bother you?

[kerryk]

was dd's birthday a few weeks ago.

we had a big party at the local hall for all her friends.

one of my closest friends turned up with her 3 ds's but never gave dd anything for her birthday (not even a card)

this honestly is not a money issue, i dont go in for the whole spending ££££ on friends birthdays.

there has been a lot of birthdays in there year group the last few months i know she has given gifts to all the other children who's parties she has been to.

likewise when it was her ds's party's over the last few months i have always given a gift.

god reading this back it sounds really bad but i cant help but feel hurt that my dd is the one who has been left out.

am i being far to pfb about it all?

I think this is a bit strange to do this if she is a close friend and you know she has given presents to others

However I wouldn't read anything into it. She probably got home to find she had forgotten to bring the present or something! And your dd definately won't have noticed.

I would forget it tbh.

Actually just noticed this was a few weeks ago - I think it is a bit funny that you are still dwelling on this when it happened a few weeks ago....

Anything else going on you're not mentioning?

It would bother me. Yanbu.

I'm inclined to agree with alicet.

I realised recently that dd was going to a party, and for some reason it never entered my head to get a present. Never done that before, it just got forgotten. Fortunately I had something in the house that had been put aside for dd's birthday, so she took that.

The present was probably left on the sideboard!

i know it has been bugging me for a bit

one of the ds's asked his mum where the present was when he turned up and she just shrugged her shoulders at him.

YANBU - because she normally does give pressies. My BF don't as we have an agreement but as you don't it's a bit off.

Wierd thatshe shrugged her shoulders at him. So she obviously knew. Can understand you worrying about this then...

Has he got money worries?

she even

so would anyone mention anything then?

anything i say will sound really petty!

dh said next time it is her ds's birthday not to send anything but i could never do that.

no money worried. or if there are they are well covered up by nights out/take aways and spending over a thousand ££ on xmas presents.

i hate feeling bitter and twisted about things and this is bugging me.

i was actually hoping i would get loads of yabu get over yourself posts to make me feel better!

The shoulder shrug could have been one of you has got it.

I'm really bad at labeling presents (which I always take) and rarely do cards. Is it possible that the present got confused in the pile?

I wouldn't mention anything if it was a few weeks ago. I'm not sure if I would have mentioned anything at the time either th. Neither would I not buy a present for her ds's if she is a close friend but I probably would only buy a small token pressie. Maybe she was embarrassed she forgot thats why she just shrugged...

Basically I would let it lie and not mention it unless she does it again. Or say something like 'the kids get so much tat don't they - shall we have an agreement not to buy pressies for Christmas / Birthdays anymore?'

Just ignore it. Sometimes I don't get round to getting a present, and not everyone always brings presents for my kids at parties either. She probably forgot to buy one or somehting. If she had been making a point she wouldn't have come to the party at all.