to be a bit pissed off with XH?

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stops here the w.e when seeing DS.

pays maintenance (£300 per month) had DS this weekend just gone, i've got my heating set for 1 hour at the am when we wake up and 1.5 when DS is having his bath/bed from 5pm. it's set at number 4, 18oC and the rad's are half the way on (apparently this is the most economical way to run them) - i'd love to have it on full all the time but i can't afford it so DS & I live in 2/3 layers by day he's in bed with 2/3 blankets on and I go in when I get too cold (usually about 9.30-10pm and watch telly etc in bed)

got home and XH says I put the heating on for an extra hour at lunch and night - ok I say, only for today he says - ok I say i'll sort it out in a minute. (we went out I just got back) and have found (after me being sweltering hot) the boiler is up full blast on the temp settings, (number 6/7) ALL of the radiators are on full blast and theres not an extra hour added at all there's an extra 3 hours added (one being half 9 at night - yes it gets cold but DP (when he's down) and I have a blanket around us both or i'm in bed watching telly/studying etc etc.

XH won't put on more than 1 layer so he has on a thin short sleeved t shirt n wacks my heating on full.

I know i'm prob v v unreasonable and he'll argue he pays towards the bills with the maintenance but heatings not my only blinking bill!!!

I wish i'd never shown him how to work the damn boiler now.

I wouldn't mind an extra hour (or hour & a half on the times even for 1.5 days) but it's the fact he's turned it up full as hugh as it will all go.

I don't think he does tbh. he's meant to be staying here on the 20th dec for a week over xmas (already pre arranged) - have no great dramas with this - althou i'll obv have to buy more food but no doubt as i'll not be here he'll have the heating on full blast like he used to when we were together literally form 9am to 10pm. and i'll be buggered if he's doing that cos I simply can't afford it - it's not a case of I don't want to be able to it's a case of physically I can't iycwim.

(it is reasonable isn't it to say yes you can have it on a bit longer if you really really must, but only after you've put a jumper etc on & not once DS is asleep - oh and don't mess about with my heat settings - which I might add were sorted by my uncle who's a plumber - i'm a bit blonde! )

why let him stop? most people have their children without staying in xp house. Is he homeless or in shared accom? Is there nowhere else he can stay?

I think if someone is staying in your house while you're not tere then they can do what they like with the heating tbh

if a friend turned it up you probably wouldn't mind

he probably just gets on your wick in a multitude of ways and this one has annoyed you today

sorry but I wouldn't go into a friends house n turn up their heating and as such none of mine would come into my house and turn it on/put it up etc.

he's forces inthe singles block, knows no one here apart form my family, him being here is the arrangement until I move from this hosue - then no more and he'll have to sort something else out - it started out as both of us doing each other a favour. but now he's taking the piss a bit.

all he needs is one jumper n a t shirt (like I do. and I HATE the cold!)

doesn't help he ate all of my bread and didn't replace it. but ho hum.