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AIBU? I get the impression I am, as I mentioned it to my sister and best friend and they didn't really react..

MIL came to stay, she offered so that we could go out for DH b.day. We took her up on it as haven't been out for months. While we were out she rearranged DD's wardrobe and then made me go and look at what she'd done so she could show me and explain the new arrangements. I didn't say anything, but I'm really annoyed! Just three days ago I had a big clear out of DD wardrobe and rearranged everything, organising her current clothes and what would fit in 2, 6 and 12 months etc, now I don't know where anything is! The more I think about it the more annoyed I get. I told DH how I felt but considering she did do all our ironing (and there was A LOT!) I cant say anything, but just want to rant about it. I've now got to find the time to do it all over again, but as DH pointed out that will take less time than the ironing. I just wanted a bit of empathy, but think I'm probably just a bit OCD about it.....

weelll, my mil does this sort of thing. i irrationally get annoyed when she makes our bed for eg. so, yabu, prob, but its understandable.

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Nope, YANBU, but you probably need to be diplomatic. A good relationship with a grandparent is a real bonus for a kid. Even if your MIL is a bit interfering, perhaps her heart is in the right place?

Oh sigghh I spose YANBU but I would love it if someone came in and rearranged DS wardrobe. While they were at it they could do mine as well and sort it into a Lardy and Non Lardy section.

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she probably thought she was being helpful whilst babysitting to allow you to go out

leave her a big pile of ironing next time

It depends if you feel that it was a genuine wish to help or whether it was a bit 'Look, DIL, you idle, disorganised bimbo, this is how to arrange a wardrobe properly'. ONly you know what things are usually like with your MIL.

Send her over here!! I will adopt her!! She sounds lovely, and YAB a bit U, although I understand it's a little bit invasive having your stuff moved around. But surely there are worse crimes than trying to help you?

YABU - but I would have felt the same way as you. Find the time to rearrange it again, but don't say anything more about it.

I'm sure she meant well. She's not really interfering as such, but very opinionated about everything baby/child orientated.

Ronaldinhio, I did leave her some ironing, which I'm grateful that she did, shame the kitchen was a sty when I got back, I'd left it in perfect order!

The wardrobe was very neat and tidy before, just not the way she wanted it, obviously. The shelves have been moved round, stuff that was hanging is folded and stuff that was folded is now hanging. It's very strange. I'm sure she'd go mad if I went into her house and rearranged a cupboard or something!

yabu not to put a title.

I think you will have to bite your tongue because she meant well. YANBU though, I wouldn't be pleased if someone rearranged stuff in my house.

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I would be annoyed too, but I would not fall out with MIL about it.

Moan to DH, ask him to make you a cup of tea and bring you a biscuit then rant a bit more on MN.

Hmm, I don't think YABU, but then again, if this is the only thing she does, then I would let it go without a comment.

However, I WOULD put it back if I were you. It will be a very big sign to her that you did NOT appreciate what she had done. If she says something, tell her that you really do prefer the way you have arranged it, thank you very much. If she tries to redo it again, you will need to tell her clearly (but nicely!) that you have spent a lot of time arranging it the way YOU want it, and are very happy with it, and don't want it rearranged.

My ILs have a rule in their house - 'strangers' don't put things away! If you help with the washing up, then you leave the dried items on the counter and they will put it away later, rather than trying to find what it is you put away.

I've decided to implement the same rule in my house - 'strangers' to the house DON'T go into cupboards, drawers, to put anything away. A universal rule like that helps people to not be offended.