To ask Bloke NOT to go to the pub to watch the rugby, but to stay in with me?

[FfreckleFface]

We are both fanatical about the Welsh rugby team, and before having little Ff we would have been at the pub together this afternoon.

I spent all last night and most of today in the toilet, with hideous v&d - not sure if it is food poisoning or a bug, and don't really care, all I know is that I am feeling very sorry for myself indeed. And in his defence, Bloke stayed up with me while I weathered my gastric explosions all last night, even cleaning the bathroom floor after a (sorry, TMI) 'both ends' incident, and has looked after little Ff all day, just bringing her to me for milk.

In any other circumstances I would have put her in her Wales babygrow and taken her to the pub for the game, but I still feel like a big pile of poo, and have only just graduated to the sofa, confident that I am empty. AIBU to think that it isn't such a hardship for him to stay in with me, rather than go across the road to the pub to watch it?

He has conceded that maybe he will stay in, and is sat with little Ff on his lap looking sulky. Am I really being mean and 'one of those wives', which I swore I would never be?

Can he not watch half with you and half in the pub and have a comprimise(sp)??

nyanbu he stays in or takes lo to pub with him and you go to bed. or maybe he could go for a bit when she is asleep? hope you feel better

well - I was going to say YABU - however seeing that you are also a Rugby fan and would have loved to be able to go to the pub with him (and DD) then YANBU

I'd let him go...especially as he has looked after you both!

I think he should go to the pub for a couple of hours

btw, he sounds fab

Encourage him to go. He could nip back at half time to check on you.

let him go. It's draining looking after a sick person. He's across the road so he goes on the understanding that if you end up having a difficult time with the baby or being really ill again, he comes back.

now you see I would also usually say let him go - he sounds wonderful but the OP is also a Rugby fan and would love to be able to go too............and if I was the OP I'd be a bitter twisted cow if my OH went to the pub to watch the rugby and I wasn't up to it

When I had V&D when ds1 was tiny dp went off with not a thought to how I felt. I was still puking and I just had to get on with it. Lovely to hear not all men are heartless gits!!!

YABu. Let him go he did look after you.

You poor thing, sounds awful.

If you can bear letting him go for the second half it'll be good to reward his support.

I speak as 6 months pg, been at work on my feet since 7.30 this morning, came back this avo to be told My 2.3 year old decided against him nap and hubby off to the pub but back by 6pm. He just called to say he had to get his round - but anyway, it's good to stock up the favours I reckon!

Hope you feel better.

Let him go. To escape the smell of sick

YABU. He's been great in looking after you. Think of it from his pov - if you'd been looking after him, clearing up his, er, bodily fluids, wouldn't you fancy a couple of hours off? You have my sympathies btw, nothing worse than v&d and having to look after a child at the same time. Hope you feel better soon.