Okay maybe a bit... but am I have fallen out with a friend over this...

[mamadiva]

Right first of all it's related to BabyP case but nothing within the case will be mentioned I PROMISE!

It's more to do with how my friend has reacted than the case itself!

Well I'll start from the beginning, I will admit yes I ahve mentioned the names on here when they first came out and I admit I was wrong for this I was just angry but I have stopped it now. But since the story broke she has been looking up pictures and has started 18 groups between FB and Bebo some 'in memory of BabyP' and some baiscally trying to incite people into violence looking up names, and addresses of those involved, she even printed a pic of him with his siters christ knows where she found it thoug but she put it as her profile pic, which Im sorry is just wrong those little girls have nothing to do with any of it! They are living with what happened they dont need people to start recognising them.

Anyway I told her to stop it because frankly it's just going to ruin any future court proceedings and its things like that, that are doing no good at all and just going to cause more upset within that family and they dont bloody need it!

Why are people so selfish! She cracked up when they removed half of her pages and redone them saying they ahd no right, and people need to know who these bastards are! I do agree I wish they hadnt been kept 'secret' but what good would it do if theyd published them? She has also planned a holiday to England from Wales with her 3 kids to go see his grave and James Bulgers as its something shed like to do, her kids are 2,5 and 8 it's hardly an ideal family holiday, they are graves for famillies to mourn not for fecking people to visit on their holidays they are not tourist attractions! ARGH sorry this has made me so angry!!!

Sorry for rambling o but its just pissing me off!

nope yanbu

yanbu she sounds lik eone of the people who delight in mourning

YANBU - at all

She sounds like a ghoul

she's weird. def off her trolley. visiting their graves??????????

Nyanbu.

some people definitely do get some sort of ghoulish thrill out of this.

There is a poster on another forum i visit, posting links to things that shock her, and stirring everybody up in a tailspin of outrage. Then starting other threads about bringing back capital punishment. It makes me weep, that there are people this thick out there. (not your friend, just generally)

She sounds like she is taking it all far too personally, more than is appropriate

That was one of the man things that annoyed me, the grave visiting and the photos of him and his sisters pissed me right off.

Have deleted her from msn and all internet accounts, as well as telling her not to bother phoning me again.

YANBU I would be really annoyed and upset with any friend of mine that was doing this . Why is she visiting the grave ? What is she hoping to get out of it ? I really feel for people who have lost people recently and whose loved ones are in the same graveyard and who are probably now staying away because of people like this .

Oh I hate those facebook things. Not because I dont care but really what good do they do?

I would support a rally that would make some difference, a proper petition etc but facebook and bebo are not going to change the world.

She is taking it far too far and I actually think is being quite disrespective of the families involved feelings (ie jamie bulger) do they really want tourists at their sons grave?

YANBU

sounds creepy

Thing is though Stealth she doesnt seem upset about it TBH its just like she glories in it.

I went onto her bebo the other daya and her profile pic was the computer image of his injuries apparently out of respect for him, how the hell is that respectful.

I went onto her Bebo on Friday and she had left a comment saying 'Can't wait for the Sunday papers now, what else will emerge? Should be interesting' Then on Sunday 'Has everyone read the NOTW well ritten and cant believe that girl lived there'

I left a message saying that was disgusting he was a child with a horrific life she is 'anticipating reading about' not abloody fictional book we've been dying to read.

Sounds like a bit of an 'ambulance chaser.' Oh dear. YANBU, but TBH, you can't change the actions of others.

God give me the grace to accept the things I cannot change...

She's a ghoul

She sounds like my mother and half my aunts.

I went to my cousin's recently and his mum was there and everyone was having a nice time after his DD's birthday party, and his mum (my aunt) started to talk about various news stories about people being killed, injured, dying of wasting diseases, etc. It was like an episode of Father Ted I swear. And this is a normal day out chez Littlebella's extrended family.

Some poeple are like this. But you can choose your friends, you can't choose your relatives.

she needs to get a life

could you tell her this? maybe she doesn't realise what a freak she is being - do you think everything is ok with her, is she sublimating some other rage/grief through this case?

The problem is she will be getting more people telling her that what she is doing is fine than will tell her she is being a loon so I doubt she will listen

she's a freak.

This kind of grief tourism is just sickening. Like the coach loads of people who travelled down to soham when Holly Wells and Jessica Chapman were killed.

It's like competitive grieving.

How weird and unpleasant ... and her poor children ... what can she be thinking??

I don't really understand why people get like this. Sad and tragic things happen all the time. Sometimes the media make a big thing of it/it captures the public's imagination and things seem to get out of all control.

As many others have already said on other threads, if you feel strongly about these things, go and make yourself useful - sign a petition, raise some money, volunteer to help with a charity.

Visiting graves helps no-one (unless loved ones of course) and in this case is a bit sick.

Yep, weirdo.

It's all been said already.

Your friend sounds barking mad.

Visiting the graves of murdered children is quite frankly disturbing.

what a fraek.

That is part of the reason I have stopped contact with her.

I cant eb doing with people like that, dont want my DS hearing her talk about it, all she ever goes on about I mean dont get me wrong I do read about these things I find it easier to read them and process the info than steer clear of it but still getting excited about treading the sunday papers is abit weird especially after what it contained, but she didnt seem upset at all, she sat reading it and typing it onto one of the group blogs calm as you like I was sick twice reading it and she sat basically writing a review of it.

Oh Dear Lord. If it wasn't for the fact that I know so many people who sound like that I'd ask if she was mentally ill.
What is it with this self-indulgent, self-righteous competitive grief/disgust.
It's awful, we all know that, but what do they actually achieve by acting like this. Out of respect for that poor child - have a think, be grateful, spend some fun time with your own LO and thank God you all have each other. You do not emblazen your PC with pictures of his injuries - its just attention seeking to inflate their own ego's (look, I'm obviously more appalled than you!) IMO.

P.S. Obviously YANBU

She is a sicko on a mission. Somebodys tragedy has given her life meaning. Sad and pathetic. Pity to her. You are right in cutting her out of your life.

This is weird and YANBU at all.

I've noticed a lot of it and not just with this case. Ever since Diana's death, some people seem to be overly concerned with other people knowing that they care or are upset.