(Have posted this as a moan elsewhere, but would value other pov on this!)
DH is going to visit his friend and friend's dw tomorrow. I can't go because of work. They are expecting their pfb the same week our ectopic would have been due and I have found this fact really, really hard. I find knowing we will have a permanent reminder of what wasn't to be. As a result of me feeling about it all, I haven't spoken to them much (not unusual as they are more dh's frineds anyway) but did send a card when they announced it congratulating them.
I want to send a gift with dh (was thinking belly cream, preg mag, flowers) but also want to mention in a card that as pleased for them as I am, I am finding it difficult etc. DH really doesn't want me to do this, and refuses to even mention it while he's there. I feel that if I never say anything our relationship could get harder, and I really want it said, so we can all move forwards.
AIBU?