opinions needed

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I'll try and keep this short.

Dh hasn't seen his son for a lot of years. He tried to keep in touch but everything went wrong.. ( but that is another story)..

anyhoo.. he has always made himself available to find easily, he has made it known through people who know his son that when his son wanted to find him he would be there for him.

So son ( now grown up) did get in touch .. YAY.. he is coming round tonight .. again YAY..
but they will have a lot of things to talk about and to find out about each other etc as you would expect.

I don't want to be in their way.. but I don't want to look unfriendly.. I was thinking of being around but getting work done ( I work from home)..
so would this be unreasonable or look like I am avoiding him .. opinions please!

I am quite happy popping in with teas and coffees and obviously won't ignore him..

I think that's really sensitive of you. As long as you're clearly around when he arrives and make him feel welcome, settled, have provided beverages (tea, coffee, alcohol!) then you can probably say something like "i'm sure you two have lots of things you want to discuss so I'm going to go and do some work and leave you to it...don't worry, I'll come back with some xxxx (insert food type here - biscuits/cake/dinner) in a bit!". Then you can make yourself scarce and decide a bit later whether they could do with some company or are actually getting on fine. Good luck

What would your DH prefer you do?

Just say to him something like 'ill go and let you to catch up' so you dont seem like you are avoiding him.

i think that is great you are giving them space to catch up and not treading on toes.

but dont go the secend he gets in, make a drink then chat for a few mins. then go off and leave them to it.

Thanks guys.. i'm actually really nervous for them both.

I'll go bake some cake and biscuits.. that's a fab idea.

DH doesn't mind.. tbh he's a bit overwhelmed.

that sounds like the perfect solution, let ds know that if he wants your help you are around but will leave them to it.
good luck to him.

Sounds like a very good soloution to me, just lurk in the back ground so your dh knows you are there to support him

Hope it all goes well for him, good luck!

just realised I got totally the wrong end of the stick, sounds great still though.

lol

thanks guys again.. all went really well tonight