to put this comment in DS2's Home/School book

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DS2 is 5, in Yr1 and struggling to read. I have talked to his teacher about it and he goes for extra sessions with the SENCO. He is otherwise bright and thriving at school.

Both teacher and SENCO are aware (and appreciative) that I read for a few minutes every morning and evening with him.

Today he has read in class with the TA. She has written in his book "DS2 needs to practice reading at home"

I have put "DS2 does PRACTISE at home, every day with out fail" with the S underlined. I know it's asking for trouble but grrrr.

'Just because you are unfortunate enough to have a crap one in your DS's class, don't assume that the rest of us are too!'

How do you know she's crap? The teacher & senco may not have passed on the information that OP reads every day with her ds - the OP did state that the 'teacher & senco are aware' only. It is possible TA knows nothing about it.

Sameagain - YABU and ungrateful IMO. I'm sure the TA's comment would not have been made with malice but with the good intention of trying to be helpful.

Sorry as it's such a closely edited thread I should have put 'they' instead of 'she' in referral to the TA.

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Oh for heaven's sake... practise/practice is one of the most common mistakes.

Making it doesn't mean someone is a crap TA.

I don't blame you for making that point though, the TA's assumption that you are not reading with him is, well, pretty crap

We had the same comment in the same situation last year (minus the spelling error ) and I was furious too and wrote similar comment, not that anybody bothered to read it.

YABU. I have an English degree, thought spelling was one of my strengths, yet if I'm really honest, I've probably used practice in situations where I've meant practise.

It is really not worth deliberately antagonising someone who is there to help your child.

YANBU. I would've done the same!

Oh fgs.
YABU and if you have the energy to get worked up about this, I would save it because during your child's educational life, there will be many things that risk your wrath, most of them which will be far more important than this is. Put it in context. It may be that she meant that whilst he had read the book with the TA, he needs to re-read it at home before it is changed.
What are you hoping to achieve? To upset the TA and belittle her efforts?

I agree with Robin - you need to choose your battles, and this doesnt merit being one of them.
Also, to conclude that she is rubbish at her job over one comment and a spelling error is a big leap. Do you really want to antagonise her when she will continue to work with your son? YABU.

The underlining was really snitty.

It seems you think you can get away with being rude to her because she is a lowly TA.
Would you have taken the same tone with the teacher?
YABU

I don't think I'm anywhere near as worked up as you all think I am TBH.

I didn't say all TAs are uneducated, just that it is possible to be one without being educated (which it is). I certainly never said she was rubbish at ther job.

It was a snap defensive reaction when I thought my parenting was being unfairly criticised and I said in an early post that she probably made an honest mistake (as a number of us have done on this thread)

The comment in the book was not criticising your parenting. YOu are being too touchy.

Why bother making any sort of comment then? Why bother starting a thread?

have you actually sent it in?

makes you look really petty, I'm afraid

even though it is a mistake

Tee2072, both spellings are not fine - unless they're being used in the correct context, i.e. practice being a verb and practise being a noun.
Yes, it is a common mistake, but I don't think that we should accept it, or because the Americans do it that way. The easiest way to remember it is to compare it with advice and advise. Same rule.

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I'd be pissed off too. It's just the idea that the TA is thinking if he had a bit of practice at home, he'd be fine.

Any school worth its salt should keep all TAs informed in these matters. Do you write in his home/school book each time you hear him read?

I wouldn't have underlined the word but I would have spoken to the teacher and asked her to explain how much time you are giving over to this.

i think you were rude. >

did you really put with out fail?
surely it is without fail

"TAs and teachers seem very touchy when we point out their mistakes"

Perhaps teachers should point out the parenting mistakes that come to their attention on a daily basis?

Form an orderly queue here and we'll deal with them all individually.

good point robinpud

It is up to us as educators of children to make sure the information we pass on (both directly and indirectly) is correct.
I am a maths teacher and I make a point of getting practice/practise correct. You don't need to be good at spelling or grammar to be a good TA or teacher, but it helps. Of course some are good at these things and rubbish at their jobs.....I admit this possibility....

YABU for the simple reason that you (I bet) would not have done that if the comment (never mind the spelling) had not riled you for its suggestion that you were not doing something you should / could have been doing (as you read it). So you took your annoyance out on her lack of education, as you saw it. A really low move. It IS a very common mistake, and does not rank with there / there / they're etc, when it comes to being in a classroom teaching children.

I expect they'll photocopy your rude note and pin it to the staffroom noticeboard to throw darts at.

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kind of loses it's power when you spell "without" incorrectly.
do you really want to get petty with the person in charge of helping your child.
also i think people are being harsh on the TA by saying she "has a cheek etc to be assuming you don't read with hm everyday"
she's jusst doing her job and reinfrocing the idea with a note in the homework book.
if the child had reading difficulties and she was saying nothing everyone would accuse her of not caring etc.
damned if she does, damned if she don't.