...to think a 13yr old shouldn't go unsupervised to see Kanye West?

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DP has to drive over an hour away to pick up his son from concert in next city tonight, because his ex has paid for him and a friend to go to the concert. It will be a nightmare trying to find him in the crowd coming out, the city is unfamiliar, no idea about parking etc, and no real clue when it ends.

Aibu to think that his mum should either not let her 13yr old go if he can't get home by himself, or stay with him and bring him back herself. It's not like it will be full of middle aged hippies, probably quite unsafe for a naive middle class kid to be wandering round in unfamiliar streets full of hip hop wannabes after dark. Bearing in mind how awkward it will be for DP to be hanging round waiting for it to finish when he never approved the trip in the first place, he offered to drop them off instead, and the ex could have the hassle of picking up. She refused though and said it wasn't a safe place for a woman to be hanging round the city centre at night !

Aibu to think she is a pits and to wish she would just bloody think before she stumps up for a "treat" which is such a worry and frankly effing inconvenient too?

Pits should read pita, ie pain in the arse.

Are they allowed in by themselves? I thought the age was 14?

Could dp ask google for places around that area or location and then decide where to park?

It is a pain the arse.

13 does sound young but I went to an all-day party in the park type event at that age.

She should take responsibilty for taking him and picking him up if she is the one who said he can go. yanbu on that score

I thought you had to be accompanied by an adult if you were going to a gig at the MEN and were under 14.

Excellent point about being too young, I hadn't realised that. So ex is being even more irresponsible than I thought then.

Will they want to see ID. Now I'm worried that they'll get knocked back at the door after she has dropped them off, and will be stranded waiting for DP to drive over to collect them

Do you think I should tell her this info, or ask DP to? I doubt she3'll change any arrangement as a result though. Good point also about the other boy's parents doing one leg - why she didn't sort that out I don't know.

So, I don't see DP all evening FOR NO GOOD REASON. I hope dss doesn't start expecting us to let him go to this kind of thing when he's with us. Not on my watch!

If it's Manchester he will struggle to park cos everywhere near the arena charges £8-ish or more on events night. Does the son have a mobile? If so he should stay inside the arena building after the concert ends and your DH can then ring him when he is nearby. He will be safe inside the building.

so it's not safe for a grown woman. but she thinks it is safe for a 13 year old boy??

me thinks this lady is crackers.

I wouldn't expect them to ask for ID as long as the kid looks about 14. The arena staff just want an easy life. But yes I think the mum should know it's 14 then she can hang around until she knows they are in OK.

I do think loon is apt in her case - she just irritates the hell out of me with this kind of thing. Have phoned the ticket line, and they said that as long as the tickets are seated, under 14s are allowed in unaccompanied. WTF? So an eight year old could go, presumably...Kanye West, not really for littluns, is it?