to think husband shouldnt go away with work?

[benandoli]

OK so I know he doesnt want to go but I just feel weepy about him going away to London with work for 2 nights leaving me with two boys 3 and 6 and a newborn, 4 weeks old. Granparents are helping out but I just feel really weepy about him not being here.

Agree with Mrs B.

He'll be home soon.

mine worked 12 months away when my eldest two were 3(sn)&1. Then 8 months away when they were 5 &3. Eldest was diagnosed with severe sn at that time. But you do what you have to do to survive and work is work

we had kids before his job. whats wrog with a man being 50% responsible?

my dh goes away all the time too it pays the bills yes there are times when I think he should be at home but I just have to get on with it
buy yourself a big bar of choc and watch what you want on the telly that's what I do

different families, different ways.

YANBU - Its not ideal is it? Is there anyway he can put it off?

I'm with needmorecoffee - it take bollocks to tell work that your family is more important sometimes. And I think that having a newborn is one of those times if your partner is not feeling ready to be on her own yet. Why is that unreasonable? Has everyone forgotton how it feels in those first crazy 6 weeks??? Just because everyone (including me, I might add) can trot out their own stories about partners travelling when LOs are small doesn't help make it better or right for someone else.

Agree with takingit.

it's shite, but 2 days/nights will fly by.

YABU to texpect him not to go. Dh has had to go away with work from time to time>I miss him and he does not like being away, But we have always coped.

YANBU to feel scared and a bit shaky at the thought of him going away, but it IS only 2 days, and when you find that you CAN cope, you will feel so much better!

Like others, my DH is in the forces, and last year he was in the Gulf for 9 months- he left when I was 10 weeks pregnant with no 3 (other two were 3 and 2), came home for 2 weeks when ds was born, then back to the Gulf for 6 weeks (including Christmas and New Year) Yeah, I felt apprehensive, but I coped and felt stronger for it.

I appreciate what others have said about it being a 50/50 responsibility, but I wanted to be a SAHM/ work PT, so the sacrifice DH makes is that he has to work to fund that lifestyle for me- I feel it is still very much a team endeavour.

You will be fine- all the best!!