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Children taking things into school & giving to other children

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cupsoftea · 17/11/2008 09:47

My dd 5yrs came home on friday with nail polish that had been given to her for the second time by a child in her class. I don't like this as it's a chemical product that shouldn't be in school.

I gave it back again to the teacher who shouted at the child for giving it out. I said to the teacher that it would be better to tell the parents or even to give a letter to everyone. She replied that it's not her job & the parents can give what they want to their kids & they don't have to check what thire kids bring into school. I am astonished by this attitude

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dingdong05 · 17/11/2008 09:50

But then if the teachers were searching the bags everyday most parents would resent their privacy being breached.
Don't get me wrong, I don't think 5 yo should have nail polish (the thought of the state of my carpets when it got spilt would be a big enoough reason!) but in this case yabu.

dizzydixies · 17/11/2008 09:50

she'd have a long job in the morning checking everyone's bags for stuff they're not meant to have

appreciate what you're saying but I would imagine it would be quite hard to keep in check, it would be more up to parents imo and maybe a wee chat with your DD so she knows to say thank you but no thank you? Am not saying its her fault in any way but I can't imagine how a teacher could do it with approx 30 children to deal with every morning

Doodle2U · 17/11/2008 09:51

Bit surprised by that response meself, cupsO.

My DD is forever squirrelling stuff in to her pockets or bag and sneaking it in to school. We have to frisk her at the gates now! Littlies like to do this and then to share it is quite the norm as well. School should and bloody well can request that stuff from home stays at home unless it's 'Show & Tell' day!

Children's nail polish is, on the whole, non-toxic. Was it adult or children's?

Flier · 17/11/2008 09:53

a letter from you to the other child's parents? politely asking if they realise that thire dd is bringing this to school? I know my ds always hides something to take into school. It's what they do.

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cupsoftea · 17/11/2008 09:55

Interesting points - it was adults nail polish & I always thought it a toxic product because its flammable. Just thought parents could be made aware of being sure or at least telling their kids not to bring things in. Nailpolish on the carpet - nightmare! Luckily dd handed it over before it leaked - top very loose & toenails painted!

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sunnygirl1412 · 17/11/2008 09:59

Isn't it nice that there are children in your dd's class who want to share and are generous with their stuff? I can understand why you are a little concerned about nail polish in school, but do you want a letter going out to all the parents telling them to stop their children being generous?

sunnygirl.

LouMacca · 17/11/2008 10:01

My DDs friend (who is 5) came for tea last week. She had a change of clothes in her book bag so I got them out for her.

I was gobsmacked to see a mobile phone in there. I presumed it was a toy one, it wasn't. She had taken a mobile phone into school and she told me she often does.

I can only think that the teacher is unware of her having a phone. Not sure whether I should mention it or not?

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cupsoftea · 17/11/2008 10:02

The other week on child had a empty tablet container as he liked the clicking sound of the lid. The mum was there as I said goodness your ds has some medicine & she replied it's empty & he likes the sound!

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seeker · 17/11/2008 10:02

I thought 5 year old girls and nail polish went together like - well, like two things that go together very well. Can't see the problem myself!

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cupsoftea · 17/11/2008 10:04

Swapping is fine but I'm not sure that nail polish is great - it can get on clothes, hair ....

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WowOoo · 17/11/2008 10:08

I can see how it is annoying for you. But, someone is trying to be friends with your dd and that would make me happy!

Tell dd that she must say NO as it's not allowed and to tell her friend that also.

Think the teacher is right too. Hope you don't ever get sticky lip gloss either...!

Doodle2U · 17/11/2008 10:08

CupsO - not got time to look it up but I don't think the kids nail polish is flammable.

Must admit, I'd be lest than thrilled with nail polish coming home with my DD but unless parents frisk, they'll find a way of sneaking contraband!

Tablet bottle and good clicking sound - hmmm, not sure I'd get worked up about that. I can see where you're coming from though.

Doodle2U · 17/11/2008 10:09

Lest than thrilled - whoo hoo, I made up a new word!

Flier · 17/11/2008 10:10

yes, its lovely that the children are sharing etc, but within reason, I mean adult nail polish and the mess it could make.....

AmIWhatAndWhy · 17/11/2008 10:11

When I was 6 a boy in my class brought his mums eternity ring into school and 'proposed' to me. I accepted and took it home. Imagine how horrified my parents were, but it was all jokily dealt with.

Bless, he was a ladykiller.

RubberDuck · 17/11/2008 10:13

"the parents can give what they want to their kids" - bet it wouldn't be the same story if the child had brought a penknife into school. What a ridiculous statement from the teacher!

FWIW we have occasionally had letters home from the class teacher asking us to make sure the children don't bring things in from home (particularly during the Go Go Crazy Bone craze as loads of littlies were getting very upset when they wanted their swaps back!)

sunnygirl1412 · 17/11/2008 10:19

That's certainly something I'd forgotten from the early school days, RubberDuck (the wanting swaps back bit, that is)!

sunnygirl.

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cupsoftea · 17/11/2008 10:20

It was adult nail polish but even if it was a childs it could make a mess & not to be injested

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onthewarpath · 17/11/2008 10:36

I think children do not always ask before they bring something to school and give it away.
Try to have a talk with this child's mum , something like "you DD gave that to mine, it was very nice of her but do you mind taking it back as I do not really want my DD to play with it..."

Very bad attitude of the teacher in any case.

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cupsoftea · 17/11/2008 12:26

I don't see the mum often & don't know her apart from saying hello iyswim.

Just surprised at the teachers attitude as well.

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Pitchounette · 17/11/2008 13:09

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cupsoftea · 17/11/2008 13:20

Good points Pitchounette

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onthewarpath · 17/11/2008 13:21

Cups it might be an occasion to get to know her a little bit more.
pitchounette have your Dcs never erver ever taken anything that was not suitable for them? you have to give me some tips, and I mean now!!!( Dc2 always at my jeweley box even hidden in very "secure" top shelve of wardrobe.

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cupsoftea · 17/11/2008 13:23

Just to add - the teacher put the nail polish on the table & turned around to sort something out. Another child put it in her pocket - I just saw her & mentioned it to the teacher. She just asked the little girl to give it back but didn't seem to register that taking things like this into school isn't appropriate in terms of envy or in terms of being a chemical product.

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cupsoftea · 17/11/2008 13:26

onthewarpath - my dd wants to invite the girl who gave her the nail polish & when I see the mum I'll invite her dd to play. She can have a cup of tea as well.

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