To be mildlly annoyed that my Aunty and Uncle have said they can't come to DS3's Christening...............

[guyFAwkesreQuiem]

because of the traveling involved - yet are flying off to Australia just over a week after the Christening for 45 days to see family out there (they go out at least once a year).

WTF?? Since when was driving 50 miles up the M1 less traveling than flying to Australia??????

I think that is a bit harsh. It would take them about 40 mins to get to you. Could you try and temps them by asking them over for sunday dinner afterwards?

the invitation was to the Christening and a buffet afterwards.

TBH I'm not particcuarly disappointed they're not coming - only invited them because of family protocol - but they told me in their letter it was because of the traveling involved, and then I've just read an email from my mum saying it's a pity they can't come because they're flying to Australia 8 days later (not really chuffed with my parents either - but that's another thread lol)

SittingBull - they came to DS1 and 2's Christening without a 2nd thought.

Oh well - bloody family - shame you can't just ditch them like you would friends that piss you off.

Yanbu to be mildly annoyed .. but I can see that Australia is a big huge trip and they might need to spend the previous weekend getting things sorted out for it. Maybe they told a white lie because they didn't want to upset you. Not worth getting pissed off about or ditching them. I think you are over reacting to be offended, especially if you don't really mind if they go or not. Well, over-reacting a bit, at least.

Australia is a regular trip for them - they go at least once a year (often twice), they don't take much with them as they're visiting family so often out there that they keep clothes out there.

tbh I would rather my family either fuck off totally, or take some interest - not dribs and drabs when they can be arsed.

I think I understand what you mean.
Its not so much the fact that you want them there, but it is hurtful that they dont paricularly give a shit that they are missing their grandchilds christening

YANBU They should make the effort

I think you could miss out then Guy. People have different levels of commitment. It's like saying -- you need to be my best friend or I won't be your friend at all.

I guess you know how you feel about your family, and all the previous that's involved though.

I think you could miss out then Guy. People have different levels of commitment. It's like saying -- you need to be my best friend or I won't be your friend at all.

I guess you know how you feel about your family, and all the previous that's involved though.

er what happened there

I don't actually feel that strongly about it!

Sorry Guy, got a bit mixed up. Not grandparents,but aunty and uncle.

Still, if they really wanted to come they could easily have made an effort, after all it is another eight days before the leave for Australia and the excuse they gave was pretty sad!

Correct me if I am wrong but this aunt and uncle are they not your great-aunt and uncle and Ds great-great-aunt and uncle? How old does that make them 70's,80's even?
Not exactley spring chickens are they?
Correct me if I am wrong but it was your cousin and her husband who came to Ds1's Christening not their parents?
They did not go out to Aussie. last year but I beleive they made it to your Grand Fathers Funeral just before Christmas?

Eek, can feel a kick-off coming on...quick, hide!

I think YABU

I wouldn't demand that my aunt and uncle came to anything I 'hosted'.

do they have children of their own, grandchildren, their own lives? they might have a lot on that weekend and just don't feel they can pack one more thing in.

Oh dear, bit of fun, do you think poly knows guyFAwkesreQuiem?

I'm ill and the cotton wool in my brain is making it hard to think!!!!!

"tbh I would rather my family either fuck off totally, or take some interest - not dribs and drabs when they can be arsed."

Thank goodness this isn't how my family works.

apprehensive bump, im besides myself waiting to see whats going on here!

My own mother idn't come to DD3's because she had a leak in the bathroom. I had visions of her wearing a divers mask and flippers, turns out the seal from around the bath had come away, fixed in 5 mins.
I guess some people just can't be arsed, thank goodness it's only your aunty.

well Poly - forgive me for having forgotten at that time in the morning who exactly came to my DS1's Christening nearly 8yrs ago.

FWIW - as you obviously do know me let me just correct you as you're being pedantic about the relationships - it was not my cousin who came to that Christening, it was my mum's Cousin (and I never have worked out what relationship that makes them to me 2nd cousin, or 1st cousin once removed).

I'm taking a wild guess here that you are the cousin in question (although if that's the case I would have thought you'd known how old your parents are) - either that or one of my immediate family.

However, that's deviating from the point, no they're not spring chickens (but you'll excuse me if I presume that 2 people, regardless of age who can cope with traveling to Australia would be able to make a short drive. However tbh I think it's more the mixed stories I'm getting, why not just be honest with me "we're going to Australia the following week and have loads to sort".......

Now if you'll excuse me I need to get DS3 to the doctors having been awake all night with him.

SimpleasABC, that's how I read it- poor form really, it would pee me off if I was the OP.

Hmm - I see poly has only made 6 posts - 5 of them on threads that I started, and 4 of those about my family.

Still it confirms my suspicions from another thread recently that "someone" in my family has been reading on here to find out what's going on in my life. I do have a telephone you know..........

ahhhh, i see!! perhaps you should use your phone to ring round and see whats going on! she certainly seems to be in the know iykwim.

not sure I can be bothered to be honest - if that's how they get their kicks good for them. I'm 99.99% certain that it's family - as I've always referred to my Aunt and uncle as that, not Great Aunt as for a long time they didn't like it (did they poly?) as they said it made them feel old .

Also how else would they know who came to my DS1's Christening, and who was at my Grandad's funeral last December...........

time for a namechange guy me thinks

to give you a giggle, my whole family flew to Ireland for DD1's funeral to make it easy for Dh's family to be there. only his parents, sister & her kids, his gran and one set of aunt & uncles turned up - his mum is one of 11 and dad one of 13 - the rest couldn't be bothered and it was at his mum's insistance we had it over there - some of mine flew from spain to scotland and then onto ireland for it

the best excuse I heard was - 'we were too busy decorating our caravan' WTF??!?!

just let it go, have a lovely day and realise that some people just aren't worth the upset

hope your DS3 is ok

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