I've only noticed the last post. Will catch up on the rest tomorrow morning.
mygreatauntgriselda
slightlysad - I would guess that neithe of your DCs go to school yet do they?
Yes, I have one DS in school.
Which goes back to my earlier point about you not being a very experienced parent (which is how your posts come across)
Really. Well, I've got 5 years so far. How many years before I get classed as experienced?
Once your DCs go to school you will understand about structure.
Understand what exactly?
I suspect you line up all of these endless dytime activities to give yourself some feeling of structure - when they go to school you will be governed by school runs, after shool activies (often having to wait with one child, whilst another is in a class, or at a party) , play dates, sleepovers, dragging toddlers into parent/teacher meetings, homework, PE kits etc etc - all very child centred I can assure you and something working mothers are all to familiar with as well as SAHMs.
Well, I've done all of that. Managed to bf in a parent/teacher meeting actually. Wonder if the teacher had ever seen that before? My OP actually stated that DS2 had been on the school run that day.
Do you serisuly think that WOHMs don't cuddle their children or something?
No. Where did I say that?
It seems to me as though you are trying to make yourself feel better about the fact that your job didn't pay enough to justify you working with two pre school DCs, by making lists of things you imagine WOHMs miss out on.
I've already said, twice, that I did earn enough to work, but not enough for me to consider leaving my children. IMO and as someone lucky (going to get called smug again for this ) enough to have the choice, there is a difference.
I have had several years worth SAHM/working f/t/workin p/t/commuting/working from home etc etc i.e. have first hand experience of all of these variations and can reassure you that children of women who work do not miss out on the things on your list - I don't feel my DCs had better quality parnting when I was at home - they just had a larger quantity of it and a less upbeat Mum.
Well then, your children are obviously fine. But I never said that it was wrong for children to be in childcare [huge sigh emoticon], just that THE BEST PLACE FOR SMALL CHILDREN IS NOT IN A NURSERY IF THEY ARE THERE FOR MOST OF THEIR WAKING HOURS & THEY DON'T EVER LEAVE THE CONFINES OF THAT NURSERY.
You know what, I started this feeling only 'slightly sad' about this issue. My feelings have grown ever stronger as this has gone on.
This is NOT a debate about WOHM vs SAHM. Just a childminder vs. nursery debate for those children in childcare all day every week day.