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Original poster

.. to think you should stop calling your baby "Beanie" after it is about 5 months old?

68 replies

BumblBeee · 16/11/2008 18:42

I have seen people call their 3 year old and even 12 year old Beanie - as in 'Guess what my embryo looks like a bean".

I don't get it?! Let the child have a proper name fgs!

I expect I am just miserable!

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jasper · 16/11/2008 19:30

you are probably being a bit unreasonable but so am I because I am unreasonable too and I agree with you.

These family pet names bug me because I think they really mean " Hey everybody, listen up! isn't my child an adorable cutie!"

Those sort of affectations should not be heard in public if you ask me.

friends of mine still call their (gauche ) ten year old daughter "wee poppet"as if we all think she is a cutie .

Gives me the heeby jeebies.

MostlyReindeer · 16/11/2008 19:30

Maybe we know the same Beanie bronze?

bubblagirl · 16/11/2008 19:34

i dont really care what people think it shows i love my child im not screaming or shouting or swearing im being affectionate which i think in all honesty is lovely to hear if you dont like it well thats ok its not aimed at you or your child

i call my son bubbla and babyboy his 3 half but he loves it i call him little man and he says i love you little mamma which just makes my insides so warm and fuzzy

its about just showing them you care theres worse things that could go on its not about showing off or making your child to be better than somebody else its affection

my partner calls me babe and sweetness etc and alot of other older people have pet names so why not for your child

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BumblBeee · 16/11/2008 19:42

Re: "doing things that hurt and damage their children"

What does that have to do with anything?

Getting annoyed at people who want to have discussions about things that don't involve people who are not "doing things that hurt and damage their children" is a bit strange?

I think the whole point of the AIBU is to have friendly and informal discussions about subjects that intrerest parents?

I may object to a child being named Chocolatebutterfly and want to chat to people about this!

I think you are being a bit OTT here?!

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BumblBeee · 16/11/2008 19:43

my partner calls me babe and sweetness etc and alot of other older people have pet names so why not for your child

  • yes but would you want your boss to call you babe?

This is the point I am making.

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Original poster
BumblBeee · 16/11/2008 19:44

It is about drawing the line somewhere.

I don't tell people at Uni my name is "sweetheart"!

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beanieb · 16/11/2008 19:45

not everyone called beanie is called that because they look like an embryo!

bronze · 16/11/2008 19:46

Mostly Reindeer. He was from Herts when I knew him and would be 27/28 now. May be the same one though I'm sure theres a few tall people out there called Beanie

Original poster
BumblBeee · 16/11/2008 20:09

"my partner calls me babe and sweetness etc and alot of other older people have pet names so why not for your child "

Well that doesn't matter then! I am talking about these specialised cases...

Anyway got to go eat or I'll get in trouble, thanks for contributing everyone.

xxxx

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Hulababy · 16/11/2008 20:25

Pet names for children by yourself - fine. DD gets lots of pet names such as "poppet" from me, but I don't ask others to use them; would never consider that!

Asking school to use pet names for addressing children I do fine somewhat odd TBH.

beanieb · 16/11/2008 20:58

As a child I insisted on being called by my pet name. It was even on the school register. Sometimes it's not that odd. I only stopped calling myself it because some horrible kids teased me. I've reclaimed it as an adult

ummadam · 16/11/2008 21:00

we went through a phase of calling DS "bean" as an Ender's Game reference (he was on the 0.4th centile when he was tiny )

TheCrackFox · 16/11/2008 21:01

I passed a dad calling his 3 year old a "fucking arsehole" the other day. Would have much preferred to hear him calling him Beanie.

YABU

Portofino · 16/11/2008 21:03

My dd (who is nearly 5) is always referred to as Moosey - as in Moosey Moo Cow, because she always finished a bottle at record speed! We don't call her it to her face though....

Portofino · 16/11/2008 21:04

TheCrackFox -

totalmisfit · 16/11/2008 21:10

oh don't be daft. nicknames are lovely.

dd is woowoo, chops, missy and any number of silly names. it's just a natural way of relating to one another. she knows her actual name isn't woowoo monkey thankfully.

TeenyTinyTorya · 16/11/2008 21:15

Ds (20mths) is Splodge, Pingu, Chubby (all my little brother's invention ) and many other silly names. I don't see anything wrong with it unlesss it's meant with malice. YABU.

Oh, and my siblings and I started off in life with very elegant four syllable names. Now we are called Tor, Otto, Bilbo, Tinsel, Chic and Jono.

TheSmallClanger · 16/11/2008 21:19

I knew two Beanys at school. One was so-called because he was tall and lanky, the other one because he had ginger hair the colour of baked beans! Both acquired their nicknames at school rather than at home.

There are much worse things to call a child, I think you're being a bit U. A friend of mine who I have mentioned before somehow got saddled with the nickname "Pooey", which her family insisted on calling her until she was in her 20s. She now prefers her DS to be referred to by his name, or a short version of it.

jasper · 16/11/2008 23:07

crackfox it's not either/or

simpson · 16/11/2008 23:26

YABU

My DS (3) is still called Gummy sometimes (he didn't get any teeth till he was 15mths

More preferable than what Crack fox heard I think...

Emily23 · 17/11/2008 07:30

I know a georgina aged 8 who is called beanie as a sort of abbreviation.

Nothing to do with embryos.

thesockmonsterofdoom · 17/11/2008 07:40

My dd is 2.8 and is Beanie or the bean, not because a feotus reminds us of a bean but because it rythmes ewith her name.

hecate · 17/11/2008 07:50

I called mine 'prawn' and 'tiny', until we chose names for them (we chose to find out gender at scan) then they became their names. (good job there were no mistakes with scan, eh? )

However, now they are born, they are such lovely things as buggerlugs, pushkin, babaroo....

not that they answer, but they often don't answer to their actual names either

ilove · 17/11/2008 08:16

I call all 4 of mine "baby" occasionally...because ATEOTD they ARE all my babies!

pingping · 17/11/2008 11:37

Beanie is little in Patois But I know in English slang beenie man means hot

YABU