to think that it is rude to drop a child at a party and leave her there without even speaking to the hoast?

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ds' birthday yesterday. We had a bowling party.

Some parents stayed but some left, and all that left came over and asked if it was ok to leave their dc. However the father of one of the children came in, dropped her off, she went to my ds and gave him his present and he then left, without so much as a hello, or a "I'm leaving her here is that alright" or anything.

Now, obviously I'm glad he trusts me enough to leave his daughter with me in such a public place, but ibu to think that just leaving her there without even acknowledging anyone at the party is extremely rude?

YANBU

It's very rude, and TBH he should have left you his mobile number, incase you needed to contact him.

YANBU, I feel the same, no hi or thanks, or an offer of a contact number. Easy childcare to some I reckon. Hope you all enjoyed! Did he say anything at pick up?

That is bad manners. Drive round to their's, wait 'til he opens the door and dump you kids and run. Maybe he'll get the point

not a word. I have the mum's mobile number so if there had been a problem I know I could have reached her.

But I have been to their house and he has been in the same room as me and hasn't spoken. Has walked past me/his dw in the street and hasn't spoken - not even to his children.

yes it does sounds rude, but from what you've said from his lack of communication is sounds like he may well be Very shy or have some kind of commmunication problem!

I think like the last poster said you have to accept that some people may have social anxieties/problems.

Or maybe he does not know who the host is?
My DH does not usually take the kids to parties as he does not know any of the mothers, unless he asked the kids.

Had you met him before? I bet he was shy, doesn't excuse not making the effort, but I do sympathise.

I took DS2 to a party this afternoon. Dropped off and said hello to mum, left phone no and checked time to collect, then said thanks at the end of the party, but you couldn't say I had an actual conversation with her and I feel like I should have but I had absolutely nothing to say

I really hope he was shy. But nonetheless YANBU.

tbh I think he's ignorant. And that his dw is in a controlling (at best) relationship.

She is very anxious about the kids "not upsetting daddy", he does the weekly shop, and checks the cupboards himself and writes the list and she doesn't go with him or have any say in what he buys.

On one occasion she stopped me on my way to school and asked if I would take her dd, she seemed ve anxious then and it later transpired they were in the middle of a row.

I think that not acknowledging any of her friends is an extention of that iyswim.

They have no social life (she has told me this) no friends as a couple, she came to my house for a pampered chef party and left very early because she had to give her dd a bottle because he wouldn't do it.

I expect to be jumped on but I have an inkling this could be a bit of a male thing? imho (and dh won;t like this!) women are better at picking up on social form, acting thoughtfully, remembering their ps and qs and better at being sensible about things like leaving a phone number - less likely to think "what are the chances of them needing it" etc. none of which, for a second, is remotely to excuse him. nor to discredit the many lovely dads that get this stuff right, nor to forget the rude mums who don't ...and a million other caveats.

ahh - didn't see your latest post.

He sounds like a control freak, possible wife beater. Just be there for her and contact the police if there is any trouble.