I have ds 13 months and am 9 weeks pg with baby no 2. The very 1st thing she said when we delivered good news was "I want another boy" (df is only child so ds is only gc) I said "you will get what you are given!" (half joking, but really not itswim). She then said it again when we went for lunch the other day, not once, but THREE times. Each time we told her more firmly that she really shouldn't say that. The final time I told her that no matter whether we have a ds2 or dd we would love them as much as ds1 & hope she would too. She replied "of course I would I just don't know what do do with girls I like boys". The final part to add is that she lives 10 mins up the road & see's ds approx once twice a month. Has looked after him very, very rarely but has never changed a nappy, in fact, she looked after him when I had a crown fitted at dentist & when I came home he gave me a big hug & I noticed that he had a foul smelling bum, she said "Oh yes, he did that a while ago". Now I don't see why a woman who knows shit all about her existing gc should be allowed any strong views on the sex of a future gc & I am paranoid that if we have a girl she will treat her differently.
I would quite happliy never see the old bat again but she is df's Mother & ds's GM & I really want them to have a good relatinship with her. My question to you all is - Am I being harsh on her or over protective of my precious bump??