I posted this in chat but meant to post it here.
The ex is supposed to have the kids from saturday to sunday every fortnight. He's always begrudged this and put everything else before them. One time he told me he couldn't afford to have them and then promptly took his girlfriend's kids to Flamingo Land.
Anyway, since he split with his GF he has moved back in with his mum so no longer has them over night hmm now he has them on a saturday and simply takes them to his mother's house before going to bed and leaving his mum to look after them (or rather, let them spend all day playing on the xbox while he sleeps).
I was getting sick of this and kept asking him "why don't you take them out??" and he always replied with "no money" hmm
So 2 weeks ago he text on the friday night and said "Can't have boys this weekend so will have them on friday when I get paid so I can take them out". So my weekend was all fooked up but more importantly, kids were disapointed but I explained to them "at least if you go on Friday, he'll take you out somewhere fun".
So Friday came, they wen't with him, returned at 4pm and I asked "where did you go?" and they said "grandma's all day and played on the playstation" angry ex told me "my wages were messed up so I'll take them out next saturday instead". So the kids were all excited...saturday came and he took them to...PC world where he bought some bits for his stupid computer and told the kids he had no money to take them out" hmm angry
Anyway, yesterday the kids said "can we go to dads today?" as it costs him no money hmm I assumed he wouldn't mind so I phoned him and got told "no, can't have them today as I'm taking my nephew out and can't cope with DS2 and him together" shock so he can take his nephew out but not his own kids??? he then said "tomorow they can come though". I asked "what time are you coming for them?" and he replied "dunno, whenever I get up" hmm
So this morning, kids got dressed nice, waited for him to turn up...I got a text at 11am saying "can't have them today, not feeling well". bastard.
"Not feeling well" basically means a hangover. I've been feeling shit for months with GENUINE, serious illnesses but do I get a break? do I hell.
I'm so pissed off with him. I'm wondering how I should respond, I don't see why he should keep getting away with it.
I'm thinking a sarcy "funny how you're always ill after a saturday night isn't it, but as you have no money, ever...it's not like it's a hangover or anything is it?"
Or a simple "kids are upset, you're out of order".
Or do I ignore him?
What would you do?