To think that if your DH IS INVOLVE WITH BUYING YOU A TRIP AWAY THAT HE SHOULD COME WITH ME?

[babalon]

For my 30th birthday in january my mum dad sister and husband bropught me a cookery course in devon. I could choose the course and they would pay for me and Dh to stay away for 2 nights either side.

I love cooking and choose the gastro game course as something really diferent and that I can't really learn from a book.

It's been booked for 4 months and is on monday hense leaving tomorow back tues. Childcare organised etc.

However DH now says he hasn't time to go, yes kitchen is in process of being ripped out, Dh is a self employed electrician but has time to do what he wants house renivations been going on for nearly 3yrs.

I would like the house done but have not put any pressure on him to get it finished and I do my share of the work too.

AIBU to want him to come away for the birthday treat that he helped organise instead of me having to drive from the midlands to devon leave our 3 kids having taken 2 days off work to be on my own?

I would love to have some time to myself. I'll go and you stay

anyone welcome to come with me I will be leaving at 2pm tomorow.

Just hoped that if he gave me the present he should want to come with me and I've never been out for a meal on my own will people think I'm a loner? Do I take a book?

Agree, YANBU, take the time and enjoy the gift that you have selected (if somewhat imposed). cooking..

YANBU

Shoddy behaviour on your DH's part. on your behalf.

I would be annoyed and I can understand why you're upset, but I think you should make the most of the opportunity. Take a book if you want, but try to enjoy being on your own. People are quite used to people dining alone when travelling on business etc., so I don't think they'll be pointing and staring

If your room has a bath, take some nice bubbles with you and enjoy a peaceful soak with a book.

Cooking is not cooking when you get to eat the proceeds!

Feel better already can go, have time to self, and use it as anmo at next argument.

Do people think you are weird if you eat in restaurant alone? And seriously, do I take a book?

I would take a book... you don't have to read it, but have it there just in case.

I would have something with really strong goat's cheese for dinner (DH hates the stuff) and buy some nice chocolate for munching in the room.

Take a book in your bag, so it's there if you need it. See how you feel once you've ordered. My DH used to spend loads of time away on business and I've asked him. He said he took a book but didn't always read it. He also said that he's seen lots of other lone diners- men and women.

Thanks very much,

Tesco's in morning for supply of indulgent snacks and face mask.

Will resist buying Dh race day for christmas then refuse to go with him!

I guess he's thinking that it's not going to be much fun for him if he's left on his own while you're off doing your cookery thang.

You'll have a ball without him.