to ask nursery to wake DS up

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DS (18mo) has been sleeping dreadfully recently - bedtime getting later and later (and yes I'm doing all the usual stuff, but he is wide awake). This happened last weekend, finally went to sleep at about 10. Mum looked after him on Tuesday and I asked her to wake him from his nap after no more than an hour. She did, and almost immediately the problem was solved.
Well when he goes to nursery (Wed-Fri) I don't feel I can ask them to do that, and last night was dreadful again - awake until 9.40 ish. Trouble is when I pick him up and ask them if he's slept much they answer "Oh yes he had a lovely long nap". Obviously if they wake him before he's ready he's grumpy. AIBU to ask them to do it anyway?

aib so u that you are all stunned into silence?

Nope, not BU. When my ds started nursery I asked them not to let him sleep for the same reason. I think as we're paying them, they should look after them as we want even if it means they have to put up with a bit of grumpiness!

No, you're not being unreasonable. It's a completely reasonable, and normal request in my experience.

The other thing you could say is "please don't let him sleep after 3.00pm" and see how that works.

They are just being lazy by letting him sleep. If you want him woken up they should respect that. Remember that you are paying for them to care for him and any requests you have should be followed. I work in a nursery and we always follow parents wishes. Be firm and explain your reasons. And Good Luck !!

BabyDragon's nursery ask how long they should be allowed to nap for.

I have to insist they let her sleep otherwise she falls asleep in the car on the way home or is utterly foul and miserable through tiredness.

There are notes on the wall of the sleep room at DS nursery saying things like 'X to sleep no longer than an hour' 'X no sleep after 4pm' etc
Fairly normal request ime

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Becky, to be fair I've never actually asked them, on the days he hasn't slept much I have hinted "Good, he never sleeps well when he sleeps a lot during the day" but I've never actually asked them to. Plus I don't think his nap length is excessive really, so I didn't know if they'd think I was being unreasonable.
Thanks all - I'll definitely mention the after 3 thing as well.

DS is 18 mo and I ask the nursery to wake him after an hour for exactly the same reason.

I work in a day nursery and a lot of parents used to ask this request and in my eyes its a perfectly acceptable request, in my nursery there was a few children who didn't go to sleep so the ones who were woke up had got some friends to play with..

SPB, I am glad to read your post. I wasn't sure whether I was unreasonable to put a 2 hour naptime limit. The carers seemed so proud to tell me that ds had a good sleep that day (2.5 hours!), I assumed, on the basis that some parents want their dcs to have a good sleep at nursery.

I felt bad to burst their bubble. I rationalise that if ds was at home with me, I would not have let him sleep for so long anyway and would put up with the grumpiness. It is so disruptive for dh and I and schoolage dd (who cannot go to bed before ds) to have him up until 9 pm.

yes me too blueshoes - there's obviously a feeling that a long nap is good!

YANBU at all. Your child your choice. Why do you feel you can't ask them to do this?

I suppose because he's so grumpy when he wakes up - I don't mind asking mum to do it as she knows the impact it has on us. It's so difficult to wake him and keep him awake. Plus it's not like they're letting him sleep all afternoon, but I want them to wake him after 45 mins.

Nope perfectly reasonable request to me!

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YANBU

simply say to nusrey - who you are paying to look aftre your child

thats he needs less sleep now and please wake up after hr