AMIBU to think my husband might have helped with puncture?

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I drove to pick up our son and it became apparent that my husband's car had a puncture so I stopped to change the tyre. But I wasn't strong enough to turn the screws myself holding the punctured tyre onto the wheel. The children were getting hungry (it was lunchtime) so I rang my husband and asked if he'd come and help--we were about 18 minutes away from home. He asked if I couldn't find 'someone else' in the shop carpark. Grudgingly he agreed to come but he didn't appear. I think he was taking his time putting away the lawnmower, etc (he thought it might rain and they're electric). Eventually a kind man did help me shift the screws and I changed the tyre and put on the spare and drove it to ATS to have the damaged tyre replaced. So yes, I managed, but AIBU to have asked my husband to help?

er, no. He's got some serious damage limitation to do that has nothing to do with the car!

YANBU at all. He's your husband.

Your poor kids must ahve been starving by the time you'd sorted that out.

Your husband is weird and downright unhelpful. Hopefully only when it comes to tyres. YANBU.

If your son is driving he can supply the braun, you supply the brains. Hubby is redundant.

Even on your own, you should be able to shift the nuts using the wrench and your foot. It's not that hard for an able bodied woman.

Well, the man who helped me said he found it quite an effort and he was a reasonable size.
My son is 11.

squeakypop, have you ever tried to undo a wheel nut??

i have, and they can easily seize up, particularly in the kind of weather and be almost impossible to shift.

I've changed a few tyres in my time.

We learnt how to do it in sixth form enrichment classes, and also from my dad.

I don't really do the weak female thing when it's an emergency. Fine if DH is present, but I wouldn't call him away from his desk.

YANBU - your husband should have dropped everything to help out with a vehicle problem.

A lot of tyres are done up tight by machines nowadays in the factory and in garages and are damm near impossible to loosen.

You lot who have changed tyres, was this recently? Coz things is a lot different with modern cars?

yanbu
I would have been furious

YANBU i would be feckin furious

with squeaky pop,I don't do the incompetant feamle thing - not helpful on the whole to anyone. Yes, have changed tyres recently - stamp on the far end of the tyre wrench to make a lever.
amazed by nametaken's "your husband should have dropped everything to help with a vehicle problem" - eh why, assuming op is able bodied if she's drving then she really needs to be able to sort out her own vehicle problems.

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i actually twisted a wheel brace once getting the wheel nuts off i just dont know my own strenght[grin.

but YANBU, if dh could come and help i would definatley expect him to.

I can change tyres/charge batteries/fill up water/check tyre pressures. I'm just not...strong.

Does this mean I shouldn't be driving, Loshad?

You need an extension tube for the wheel nut wrench. It's not strength that is required, but efficient use of levers.

though if dh had been that near, and refused to help, I'd have driven his car home with a flat, and left him to deal with the damaged wheel.

Can't you get some kind of spray that seals the puncture? I'm sure I've got some in the boot somewhere.

YANBU

I know my DH would have come and helped me because we look after each other like that.

The extension tube idea is a good one.

i would be if my dh didnt come out and DO it for me

I remember when I was a teenager my dad changing a tyre for me - I can't remember why he did this because he was really up on teaching life skills.

Anyhow, it turned out that he did quite finish the job. I started having knocking sounds in the car, and after a few days, the wheel actually fell off. It was dark, raining and on a narrow busy road. A passing motorist gave me a lift to my dad's office.

When we got back to the car, my dad knew exactly why there was a problem and felt so guilty. It probably still haunts him 25 years later.

When you change a tyre, you have to tighten the bolts using your foot on the wrench. You can't just hand-tighten them - they will come loose in a few days. If you get strange knocking from your tyres, it is probably because of loose bolts. Stop and tighten them properly.

i drove to his work with a puncture once, admittedly not that far, but helpless female that i am, i wouldnt dream of copign with it on my own.

Is it true you have to demonstrate the ability to change a wheel these days to pass your driving test?

No offence but if you can't change a wheel you shouldn't be on the road.

YANBU - but there would be no point in calling out my DH, he utterly useless with cars. He actually holds the record in my brother's garage for putting the wrong fuel in a car - 3 times FFS !!!!! Last time in his BMW cost over £7,000 to fix - insurance claims (drove over 100 miles with wrong fuel and wondered why the car "didn't feel right").

No, my wonderful brother deals with all things mechanical in our house - I have no shame in asking him, he is a qualified mechanic. He deals with the cars in our family and DH deals with the accounts.

dh can;t do up the buttons on the duvet
he can't possibly be allowed to sleep in our bed